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Why do I keep putting it off?

Eversince my dad's funeral last august I've been meaning to go back to visit the grave. But I put it off all the time. I want to go but I know it will destroy me all over again. please tell me what to do.

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vanewb84	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Don't go until you are ready. You do not owe anybody to do it. Your father would understand. You still love him and miss him. You are not disrespecting him. There's no rule that says you have to visit his grave, you can still grieve without doing so. It hasn't been long, you need time to get your feelings in order and strengthen your heart from your loss. Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!
wiseowl	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM You will want to go on your own. Don't over think it. You'll feel the need naturally. Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!
jerrica	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM like the other poster's said, you'll go when you're ready. it's no disrespect to your dad. after my mom's funeral, i didn't go to her grave again for 7 months and i know for a fact that she wouldn't have a problem with it because she told her loved ones not to make their home at her grave. Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!
wasmessedup	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 3:22PM I sometimes goes to the grave to visit people I have lost......but to me I prefer to think I have them around and with me all the time instead they are in one place in the earth. You will find a way that is right for you will. When you go it will be the right time to go, and you will know when that right time is. Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!
uscchick2012	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Sometimes you have to let yourself hit rock bottom. I, personally, went through a horrible situation. It happened three years ago, and I am finally starting to become myself again. Yeah, i know, it's not the samething that you are going through, but if you want to get past not being able to go visit his grave, the solution is to go visit his grave. It will get better with time. Maybe not easy, but not as hard as it is now. Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!
singer1960	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM You have to come to terms with the lose.....It sounds as if you have not....I know that when my Grandmother dies...It took me a year to go....I was not ready to let go of the feeling of lose.... But then I remimbered what she always said to me....They may be dead...but as long as rwe remimber them....they are never truely gone... And here it is 35 years.....and she is truely not gone for me....She is always with me...by my side Flag Inappropriate Rated: +1Vote for this!

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