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Why do I seek his approval, knowing he'll only tell me I've failed?

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Asked By: beautifulbreakdown 22-25, F  9 months ago

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    misseymoo - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by misseymoo 1 Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:29AM

    Why seek his approval..?
    your OWN approval of the things you do is far more important than that of someone who does nothing to encourage and support you.. I was married to one of those for 22 yrs- not anymore!
    Who died and made him Mr PERFECT...? Dont give him power over your self-esteem!!

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  1. Slantload - 66-70 years old - male

    Reply by Slantload Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:37AM

    You are absolutly correct. I was married to Mrs.Perfect for 18 years. She insisted I move out, Then wanted me back when I found someone else. That relationship will destroy her self esteem and paralize her life. Been there; done that; won't go back.

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  2. misseymoo - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by misseymoo Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:40AM

    you and me both!

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7 Answers to "Why do I seek his approval, knowing he'll only tell me I've failed?"

  1. imnotsureicandothis - 70+ years old

    Posted by imnotsureicandothis Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:25AM

    You live on hope my friend.

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  2. IMAGINATIONATWORK - 36-40 years old

    Posted by IMAGINATIONATWORK Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:24AM

    Because u have given him that power

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  3. originalmadman - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by originalmadman Sep 13th, 2012 at 12:16PM

    because you HAVE TO get a life of YOUR OWN under way!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its not critisizm it is advice:):):):)

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  4. anonymousconfessions - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by anonymousconfessions Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:52AM

    Because you want validation. I've been through this several times in my life. It's not easy. One way I've dealt with it is to distance myself from the person while I work on building my self esteem and confidence. When you feel strong enough, it'll be easier for you to realize that you don't need anyone's approval. Validate yourself. You'll be much happier, and may begin to attract a more supportive, loving type of person. Good luck!

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  5. seldonna - 56-60 years old

    Posted by seldonna Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:35AM

    Because you can't break the people pleaser cycle.
    That does not bode well for you in the future.

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  6. njsouth - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by njsouth Sep 13th, 2012 at 11:32AM

    u don't have seek anyone approval but ur owe. you need to tell ur self i didn't fail and keep that in ur mind

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