Why do I want his wife to know about us?

Because you want to hurt someone.

because you want her to leave him so you can be with him. you need to accept this affair for just what it is, an affair. find someone who isn't attached.

Cause you have a death wish?

Because the other woman is the one who has to be invisible, and that can be one of the loneliest feelings in the world. My late father had a mistress, I liked her very much and felt sorry for her. We all knew it was her, and just before he died we "cleansed" his office to protect our mother's feelings. I found one letter from her. We brought her to his bed to say goodbye to him, and although she was physically there with us, she was invisible because we knew but did not say anything. Every year when we visit his grave, we find flowers left there for him by an invisible woman.

well if you are already having an affair I doubt you have enough guilt for it to be for unselfish caring reasons. And if it is for good reason, I have a better idea: tell the wife you are sorry for corrupting her, and walk away forever, never to be heard from again.

You may wnat to hurt her...like ha ha..I got your man...But anyone who can get a married man is not very smart...no offense..but alot of married men are dogs and alot of women can have them. Don't tell me you actually would want him after he cheated on his wife? if he ever left his wife for you..He would do it yo you alos..no schocker there. And honey..they never leave their wives..find your own man..and dont join in on ruining others lives..

I see the sick side of the equation: maybe you want her to join in?

Because you want a conclusion and feel used.This is the worse part of any affair. Where all the conditions and parameters agreed to at the onset of the liaison begin to unravel.

The woman involved, and this is true of both single or married women, become emotionally involved and demand a satisfactory conclusion.

All bets are now off. The affair becomes a nightmare with the woman feeling spurned and used wants to call the wife to punish the man's recalcitrance to commit to her..

The man suddenly finds his life is no better off than he was at home with his wife. The lover angered will begin to further punish the man by refusing sex .. At this point the affair is over. All this happens in spite of the fact that the affair started based on pursuit of sexual fulfillment of or both parties and nothing more.

I have lived this scenario many times . It iis least likely to happen with married ladies therefore if anyone goes down this road keep clear of single women. With them a conclusion is required and inevitable.

In my case you could have called my any time she didn't much care for anything else but house . church and social position. which i just conveniently happened to furnish..

Because you have testosterone...and you want to win.

because maybe deep down inside you, you know that if his wife knew, she wouldn't want to be with him anymore, all the more reason for you two to be together.

you want to take your relationship out into the open, and be able to go out and enjoy each others company publicly instead of hiding behind the curtains all of the time...its much easier, and much better on a relationship that way.

It is good that you wish to be honest and face the inevitable hurt ahead.

I agree with Audrey..You're probably tired of being "the other woman"...But I also agree with green....why in the world do folks want people that are already taken?? I'm mean as a snake when I wanna be, but I've never done that one....

So that she will leave and you can have him all to yourself?

maybe you think it will force him to make a decision?

Because you're involved in lying and cheating and i think all of us, deep down, don't want to do that. It's natural for you to want her to know because it's not natural keeping this secret. I wish you the best of luck and hope you work it all out. Being the other woman is not the best of situations.

well my answer is an observance: holy **** there were a lot of answers to this one!

because you want him for yourself, and all your going to do is wreck a marriage and turn him against you , you'll both lose, and why would you think there's only two of you? if he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you