You breed 'em, you feed 'em ;-)
then he needs to take legal action..she has no legal right to stop him.
because they need looking after. Sadly sometimes men get a pretty raw deal when it comes to access to their kids.. Some people use their kids as bullets to hurt ..unless it's deemed that a parent is totally unfit ( and i can't think of anything apart from molestation, even the worst parent can have a supervised access visit.<br />
What are the kids intitled too? what are their rights?
Touchy subject.<br />
This site isn't the place to ask questions like that.<br />
Because they won't answer the question.. they are stuck on thinking about the money and not the visitation. The rights of both parents.. and what's best for the child, which is seeing and having a relationship with both parents is forgotten about.<br />
They hear money... and give the generic response without actually thinking about anything more in depth. <br />
Personally I think it's ridiculous that custody is pretty much predetermined, and one side is generally believed in the event of lies, while the other is ignored. Pay for your kids.. yes... but in the same token... both should contribute if possible, and custody should be shared more and cases taken by there merit without gender bias.
I am 13 Years old and currently live with my mother after going to custody court. My mother uses the child support money on things like eating at denny's every Sunday, bills all the time, toys for the dogs, etc. She lied to the judge and worked up a 600 dollar child support check out of my dad. She doesn't want me to interact with my dad or his side of the family. My brothers live with my mom and I, they are 20 years old, and need to move out and live their lives. I asked my mom about visits to the dermatologist, but she makes up lies as to why she cannot take me. When stupid boyfriend wants to go out and spend money, she has no problem with it.
I see your point, but the courts figure that stuff out and ba<x>se it on the wellbeing of the children. So if one parent makes more than the other, then they try and have that person pay some child support. Lets say you're a dad and have to pay 100 dollars a month for half custody because you make more than the mother. If you give up half custody and give it all to the mom, she will get probably 150 or 200 (or more). It actually goes up because the mom has the child all the time and will need compensation. I don't know how they regulate what the mom (or dad) spends child support money on though.
Well, as far as i know, because my wife's brother is going through this, they don't do that. They will never take a man or women's half custody away if they indeed want it. At least in the beginning. I don't know what would happen if you give up full custody and then change your mind. Unless the guy did something bad (like child abuse, has a drug problem that can be verified, etc.), I don't see how a court could deny him visitation. Get legal counsel if that's the case, because that is unfair and a court could not defensibly back one or the other parent fully without clear justification.
Me and my kids' father left the court out of it. We have joint custody with me being the primary care provider. He gives an agreed upon amount every month. I don't want the money, but I have to be realistic; the kids need it and its only fair that he helps support them. I don't trust the court system. What good would a father be if he's locked up if can't pay child support? And what happens if he's down on his luck and can barely keep a roof over his head? A lot of people don't think about that. If we leave the court system out of it, adjustments can be made to help everyone involved. I can only see the court system being the mediator if the parents involved really don't try to work together.
It's good if you can do that, but many people cant be adults about the whole thing. As far as him losing a job or getting less pay, the courts adjust child support when that happens. The problem when you don't go through the courts is maybe you don't get as much child support as you should, or one parent stops paying and gets away with it, causes problems, who knows.
well..if you have to complain about paying childsupport when you dont see the child,you have no right being a fathher.
he needs to take this to the court....its his child as much as the mothers!
Personally, I don't think its fair to the kids or the dad if the mother doesn't allow him to see the kids. A lot of women need to get their heads on straight on that note. There are a ton of fathers out there who don't care about their kids enough to even want to spend time with them (rather they pay or not). The only reason I can see it being right for the mother to keep the kids from the father is if the father is a threat to the well being of the kids. <br />
My kids father was not a great husband to me, but he was a decent father. I divorced him because he was not good for me. However, he is not a threat to my kids and kids need their dads. The way my ex-husband treated me was not good for my kids, but as long as they didn't spend too much time with him things are okay (I didn't want them to become like him). He suppose to get them every summer (since he moved away), but he gives excuses of why he can't every since he remarried.
If you are a Father then be proud and pay for your kids.
That can work both ways. My girlfriend has a son with a worthless excuse for a man, and at one point she got in a situation where she needed him to keep the boy for awhile so she could get her life straight but it was only supposed to be for a few days. Next thing she knew, the guy wouldn't give her son back, and said she would have to take him to court. She didn't have the money to hire an attorney, and was really intimidated by the guy so, he still has her son and hasn't let her see him for over 8 months! Most of this happened before I met her, and I'm sure there's more to the story that I don't understand but it doesn't seem right. He has got her for child support but his name isn't even on the birth certificate! He has even changed the boy's name without her approval. Does anyone know what I can do to help her? I know we need an attorney, but money is an issue right now. The way I see it, she is the childs mother, and nobody should be able to keep them apart. There has been no incident to cause her to be separated from her son other than that guy simply refusing to let her see him. The last time we went to try, the guy called the cops on her and made her leave. I am so mad about this, and it is tearing her apart, not being with her son. Prior to my coming in the picture, he would use the child to manipulate her into having sex with him whenever he wanted, while he dated other girls, and basically just control her. When I came along, that stopped and he stopped letting her see her son. This can't be right. She I afraid to go to court because she was an exotic dancer prior to meeting me, and fears the court will frown on her because of her old job, and also has some things on her record that she is afraid will make her look bad. In my opinion, none of that should affect the fact that she is the child's mother, and none of the things on her record are really that bad. Just things she got in trouble for when she was young. Petty things like shoplifting, etc. What do you guys think? If I could resolve this issue, and help her get some type of custody or visitation, my life would sure be a lot smoother. And, she wouldn't be so depressed everyday.
You got me, it sucks! We NEVER got to see his daughter and we paid medical and child support. She knew the system well, plus, she's evil!!