Why do most women claim they want a nice guy, a gentleman, yet always go for the guys who will treat them poorly?
11 Answers to "Why do most women claim they want a nice guy, a gentleman, yet always go for the guys who will treat them poorly?"
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Error in judgment. Plus those guys are liars.
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Because they don't *choose* men who abuse them. They *choose* men who are Stealth ********. The Stealth ******* is the B-2 stealth bomber of the dating world. He knows what to say and how to say it. He is a sociopath. Sociopaths are charming, seductive, and ruthless. A woman falls for his act, then finds out (too late) that he's a monster.
It's like enlisting in the Army. You buy the recruiter's crap, sign up, and then wake up in a warzone. People turn to you and say, "Hey, no one put a gun to your head to enlist." That's true. Likewise, no one put a gun to a woman's head and said, "Date this *******." What happened was, the guy put on such a good act that the woman bought it.
Few men say, "A ha! I am Hugo. Here I come, with my wicked intentions!"Like (2)
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Takes a while for women to learn to tell the good guys from the bad guys. The good guys are not screaming in yer face and are less noticeable. They are stable and not into drama and trauma. My husband is a good guy,and he explained this to me. Women who feel bad about themselves have an antenna up for bad boys who will help them to believe they are worthless. They pass by the good guys who would help them to feel valued. The contrast between how many women feel about themselves and what they feel they deserve vs. what they would like to have if they had self-love -- is really huge.
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Many women have poor self esteem and think that is what they deserve. Their father could have been a bum and treated their mother bad so thats what they consider "normal". Also, woman are attracted to "manly" men. And, like shallow men who date women because of the size of their breasts, these woman date men who are macho and abusive because they focus on one aspect of the person instead of the whole package.
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Agree with artemiz.
Plus for the most part most guys are nice in the beginning, they dont start out treating a girl poorly.Like (2)
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And women claim that men only think with their penises. How MANY times I have heard some woman proclaim "Oh I wish I could find a nice man". Baby, the answer is simple - you think with your ****, and your **** doesn't juice up for no nice man. Are you really THAT stupid?
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When a woman go for a guy that treats her poorly and she allows it then she really does not have love or respect for herself, and if you don't love your self then who is going to.
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The thing is we (people) don't know what we want, and we are never conformable with what we have, specially if we give those kind of things for granted, we like challenges, and people use to have the fixation on change other people, and the also a "bad guy" offers some adrenaline, ironicly the inestability we love, even when we say and think we like something stable, we just adore drama, we can't stand perfection, it gets boring, it gets predictable, this could be one reason, the other is just the lack of self steem, when we subconsciously believe we don't deserve a nice guy and just get involve with people who ratifies our belief of not being good enough, worthy enough, not having enough to offer to somebody who could really offer us good things, we find an insecurity epidemic, based on society steriotypes, appereances... or our own experience, we make mistakes along the way and sometimes we don't get over them
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Because those guys who treat them poorly came off as funny, interesting and nice gentlemen before they started dating said girls. That and, guys who act 'too nice' often come off as pandering curses in disguise who will drop the good guy act as soon as they manage to moisten their ****.
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The demon in them does not always show their heads until much later. At least with a "bad boy" you know where you are standing from scratch. To many "nice guys" turn out to be NOT so nice.
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Posted by whowasthatmaskedman 1 Jul 25th, 2010 at 5:12AM
There are a large subset of the guys who have "it" for women who ubuse the privilege.
Because all they want is the conquest, they "treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen." You see their posts on here all the time. But as long as women pick there guys by looks and genes thats how it will continue. Women can't help thinking that they can change a "bad boy" (Which of course they can't.)
But many wise up and find a nice guy sooner or later.
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