Simply put it's a coping mechanism. My only advice is to understand we all cope differently and that is the end result.
Some people don't have love or health...and they have so much **** pile up on them they will explode if they don't let it out. It's called healthy venting in that case....I can listen to someone complain, if that's what it takes to keep them sane for another day, and it keeps them hanging on.
That seems more like a comment then a question ~ Either way I agree 100 % ~ When I start getting a case of the "poor me's" I try 2 take a step back & remember that although I may see my life as difficult & blah, blah, blah ~ I need 2 remember that most of my so called "difficulties" are pretty much mostly due 2 my own choice of making poor choices etc. ~ I live in one of the best countries in the world (Canada) ~ I need 2 remember that the sky is the limit & I have access 2 countlesss opportunities if only I put forth the effort. I like many others have had it "2 easy" in many ways & I expect everything 2 B given to me & provided with no work on my part (pathetic) ~ Just a thought (observation)
Picture this: you're secure in your dream job, you couldn't ask for a better partner, and you're generally in the prime of your health.
BUT! One of your eyelashes is ingrown and constantly scrapes against your cornea, and you can't remove it.
Which of these is bound to hold your attention the most?
I get your point, and feel that way at times. But just chalk it up to human frailty, where we're generally predisposed to be discontented with what we have and are always striving to gain more. It may also be a survival function, so we can cope with the constant changes that happen in our life.
It's great that you're aware of this. The next thing to do is move your focus from the petty people who ***** to the good things that you've got. ;-)
I have sorted out every aspect of my life from the petty s*** all the way to the meaning of life, but i am still miserable, that's why i *****.
I apologise if i have annoyed you, but the fact that i cant even figure out WHY i am miserable is the reason i *****.
So, i am guessing that the reason anyone *****s is the same reason I *****: they are miserable, and looking for something to blame it on, and its easier to ***** about petty things than to find, and deal with the real problem.
Hope this helps.
Most people have a tendency to focus on the negative. And that is easy to do nowadays. Sometimes it's like we are trying to outdo each other, as in "MY life is worse than YOUR life."
Even with people who have the main things like health and love....it is fairly common to do that. I think that some people complain just to "fit in". Because everyone else is complaining, and it just isn't popular to have it better than others do. So people trash things just to be sympathetic.
Or they really do have the inability to feel grateful. Some people would just never be happy no matter what they have because the problem is within the way that they look at the world.
no **** huh
sometimes the petty b***sh** is easier to deal with than the big issues - especially when something bad is happening in your life over which you have no control ... but i do agree with you, people do crap on about stuff that isn't important ... like gossip ... UGH !!!