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Why do people feel that being mean is the safest way to protect their feelings? I need to hate to stay safe

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6 Answers to "Why do people feel that being mean is the safest way to protect their feelings? I need to hate to stay safe"

  1. JoeyPFoxx - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by JoeyPFoxx Apr 3rd, 2012 at 11:13AM

    Hate and love are right next to each other. The way we feel towards one another can be illustrated on a flexible stick of passion. On one end is hate... on the other is love. In the middle is apathy or indifference. This is the zero point of passion.

    Bend the stick into a circle and you'll see how love and hate are right next to one another. When we are passionate, we are exposed and vulnerable. When people feel exposed, they really have a choice, do they risk pain and anguish and choose love? Or do they lash out with hate?

    Many people are not strong enough to love on their own. When people feel isolated, they turn to hate.

    Avoid isolation and you will be protected from hate.

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  2. deltadon - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by deltadon Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:45AM

    try yur best not become like em?!......if anything?!.....be practicin the opposite?.....you show that change is possible ;-)

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  3. daddy4adaughter - 36-40 years old

    Posted by daddy4adaughter Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:48AM

    Because they have been educated to do that by people around them.
    The belief that attack is the best form of defence.....That if i am angry and mean to everyone no-one will ever know that i`m just a scared lil child inside.

    Trouble is people who actually deal with there feelings and understand themselfs.....See right through that one.
    Believe it or not....You are supposed to control your emotions.....Not the other way around.

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  4. Wigglebottom - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Wigglebottom Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:41AM

    This is how people naturally do it when their parents never teach them any other way to behave.

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  5. Calif39 - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by Calif39 Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:43AM

    I respect that answer. You are right.. I wasn't guided. Didnt' have a dad and mom is well.. let's say she tried. Thanks for the honesty

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  6. Tanuron - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by Tanuron Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:41AM

    In most cases I think its beacuse they have not come to term or have accepted themself. So when they are "mean" to others its more like how they feel about themself. Its a weak self defence meachnism anyway.

    But it works for them.

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  7. SaintMaj - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by SaintMaj Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:40AM

    awwwww....I taught that this question comes from a teenager..now I'm surprised

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  8. Calif39 - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by Calif39 Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:42AM

    you shouldnt be. Love and Hate reaches all ages of life. Just because you are older doesnt mean things dont hurt less.

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  9. SaintMaj - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by SaintMaj Apr 3rd, 2012 at 10:44AM

    it has nothing to do with my reply

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