Why do people focus on looks when it comes to relationships? And they dare say "it's the heart that counts".
17 Answers to "Why do people focus on looks when it comes to relationships? And they dare say "it's the heart that counts"."
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Because you don't have sex with a persons mind or personality.
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I've never focused on looks to the exclusion of anything else. The person's personality and character are what always mattered to me. Visual appearance is just one of many aspects of a person. And I've always "experienced" a person's visual appearance through their personality, if that makes sense. For example, if someone has a very cold personality, then I tend to perceive their visual features as cold or uninviting. If someone has a very friendly and welcoming personality, then I tend to perceive their visual features in that way too.
If a stranger's visual appearance reminds me of someone from my past, then I have a tendency to assume that the stranger has some of the same personality qualities of the person from my past. Of course, this isn't always true, but more often than not it is true. Maybe our visual appearance is symbolic of or an extension of what is inside of us? Or, maybe our visual appearances gradually evolve to reflect our inner qualities? Something to think about anyway.Like (2)
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It seems to me that looks are almost entirely in the eye of the beholder, so it doesn't really matter anyway. A person might consider themselves physically unattractive, but the truth is that they will be very attractive to some and not to others. The same is true in reverse. That's why, Elephant Man-style extremes aside, it's usually better to focus on your personality and the way you act in social situations and let the physical chips fall where they may.
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well i dont believe that beauty is in anyones face or bady , because those things can be changed ,by different ways , but inner beauty , golden heart , honesty , sincerity , caring , good behavior those things are never been change , so those things matter for me at least
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Are we talking "beautiful hearts"?
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The worse relationship I ever had was with someone who was not my type visually , she was ugly inside and out .
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I disagree. Have you ever tried being in a relationship with someone whose only quality was looks? It's impossible. Personality goes a loooooong way and I'd personally be willing to compromise if it meant getting someone with a great personality and a great connection.
Obviously, looks count as well and they are the most easy quality to establish. So, people tend to start from that.Like (1)
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Because (condition of) the heart is not visible like the looks.
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I think most people are drawn by outer beauty. But I believe it whats inside that counts. Get my age it wont matter.
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Pretty much everyone is shallow and wants the perfect sexual partner, but they still want a person that treats them right as well, even if they don't do the same. And when they can't find anyone who has both those qualities, they compromise by either finding someone with the latter and/or having continuous romantic affairs.
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Women only care about looks and income. They won't take the time to see a persons character.
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Well most of us are visual creatures. It's usually the physical appearance that attracts us first. Then possibly, all the love stuff comes sometime after that. And in time the physical appearance will no longer matter. Unless the person is a douche .. Lol
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initially we find good looking pplattractive to the eye but at the end of the day its how youget on with someone
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ever heard the ex
pression "do what i say, not what i do" Like (1)
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not everyone does.
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This is simply human nature. You get attracted to something se'xy. Then personalty comes in second, Who would want to **** a mad mutant? nobody
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Posted by SmartSweet1 Dec 21st, 2012 at 8:12AM
Not everyone focuses on looks, however, it is no secret that men are visual, women are emotional. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and it is the connection one begins to feel when viewing someone who is visually appealing to him/her. Relationships begin on initial attraction where the initial focus often leads to a deeper focus. Note however, that the saying, "beauty is only skin deep" suggests that looks can only go so far. So, although in the beginning looks may play their role in relationships, they certainly do not compose an entire relationship where the primary focus ultimately ends up being.
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Reply by SilverScorpion Dec 21st, 2012 at 8:13AM
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Reply by SmartSweet1 Dec 21st, 2012 at 8:26AM
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