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There are many questions here about love and romance. I always say O am not interested in having a romance. I have given up on having a romantic relationship, because I have never had a successful one. I haven't been hurt in nearly 20 years. So, why, pray tell, do so many people think it is so sad?
Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F 21 Answers May 19, 2012

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that is what they need<br />
and they don't understand why you don't

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Well, I guess that could be an explanation. So many tell me not to give up hope.

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it's sad because your relationship is dry ....<br />
it's not sad because you won't suffer<br />
and it is wonderful to live the way you want

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Not sad, in any way at all. Thanks for your response.

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I don't think it's sad at all! I get it totally. I'm not in a romantic relationship and I feel fine! I do what I want, when I want. I indulge my interests, I learn new things, I relax when I want, I have friends and family. It's a good life.

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YESSSSS! You do get it. Thank you.

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I'm with you, ladies!

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Because human nature needs to be loved and cared by someone !

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I am loved and cared for by many. Also, I love and care for many. I have a large family with whom I am very close. I just don't have or want or need a partner.

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Oh oky.. It's not a problem :) do what comforts you :)

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People who have love, and cant imagine living without it, feel like you must be missing out-

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Strangely enough they aren't the ones who are saying it is sad. It's the ones who are looking and longing for a relationship, can't understand why I am not.

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Wow, not what I would have suspected. One of my dearest friends chooses to not have a relationship and has been alone for about 10yrs, she also is not sexually active. This is the path she chose b/c she was treated badly by her exes, and even cheated out of thousands of dollars (shes very giving, the type bad ppl will take advantage of). I do feel bad for her...I feel bad b/c I know she goes through a lot of depression-she also never could have kids. She is a really good woman..but the truth is shes attracted to bad men, and she knows it so she chooses to be alone. Personally there was a LoT I liked and enjoyed about being single- and although I see most women as being ridiculously co-dependant and overly concerned with their men, I do beleive there are some women who can be content being single. Then some women just need time to be healthy and learn about things like boundaries and red flags-and maybe they can establish a healthy relationship on down the road-

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alot of people your age decide against another relationship but I wouldn't close your self off completely you never know someone may come along unexpectedly and be the best thing ever

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You DON'T get it. I do not want a relationship. I have absolutely no desire for one. I like men, just fine. I ahve male friends, whose friendship I value a lot. I do not want a relationship. Period. Full Stop. Exclamation point!!!!

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gee i do get it and its perfectly fine that you don't want one i was just saying keep an open mind is all

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she isn't closing herself off........she's choosing not to be in a relationship. Big difference and that's one a lot of people don't get.

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If you're happy. That is all that ultimately counts.<br />
Happiness and contentment with our own lives is the only true measure of success.

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I agree.

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I don't think it's sad for you---you're happy. I suppose it could be argued that some guy out there is missing out on someone pretty awesome. ;) <br />
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Mostly I guess that people think it because they're conditioned to believe that everyone should be coupled.

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Coupling is great for those who want it. I don't begrudge them. I don't envy them either.

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If you happy, why bother.

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Exactly

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It's a bit sad, but I do understand it too. At least you won't suffer and can live the way you'd like. <br />
A romantic relationship always ends, and mostly hurts then.<br />
Friendship never ends.

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Thanks for your response, but.........you see, it is not the least bit sad. Maybe it would be, if I said I want a relationship, but no one wants me; but that is not the case. I made a decision. I do NOT regret it. I miss chocolate way more than romance.

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I have to echo jacee. You're a smart, grown up lady who has been managing her life and helping a BIG bunch of others for a long time now. I figure YOU know what's right for you and if you're happy with that...It's good enough for me! hugs and hugs ♥

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And hugs back to you too.

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I think people have this misguided conception that in order to be happy or fulfilled you must be in a relationship.Or have another person in it. And for some people that may be true but not everyone.<br />
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I say if you're happy with your life the way it is then I'm happy for you. What others think really has no bearing on the way you choose to live. If they don't or won't understand that then it's their problem and not yours.

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Thanks jacee, I appreciate your words. I think I may just avoid relationship questions from now on, and avoid all the unsolicited sympathy.

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that's probably a wise idea lol

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I dont, its up to you

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Thanks. Somehow, I knew you would say something like this. You are a very accepting person.

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Why do you think people even care enough about what you do or think to be sad about it? Get over yourself.

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YOu are disappointing them, but not yourself. <br />
If they say they want you to be happy, the only thing they are saying is they want you to make them happy for having a good man that they can try to steal from you.

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Well, I don't thing they would like me to have something to steal. I think they really believe that a woman needs a man to validate her existence.

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Then they have the problem not you!

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It's not. Don't worry about it.

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Not worried, just curious.

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