Can you rephrase please: to be in love or to find ...it...hard ?
It's dangerous. I'm in love with someone I can't have, if I openly admit that I love her I feel emotionally open because my feelings are far too strong for the reality of the situation I'm in. I am weak because I am out of control and she's in control. If she knows how I feel she can use that.
There are so many nuances to that word, so many possible interpretations. If a guy says "I love you" does he mean "I love being with you right now"? Does he mean "I want to be with you forever, have children with you, grow old together"? Does he mean "I am so hot for your body and can't think of anything else, let's get naked"? Does he mean "I love your mind and soul yu are a great person"? There are so many more.
If he says "I love you" and means "I want to have sex with you" the later you are wondering what happened and say "You told me you loved me!".
Guys have to be careful to be understood and when their girl is looking up at them all starryeyes with that innocent, longing look.. he might tell her what she wants to hear even if he is not sure which "Love" he actually feels. Guys really don't like to lie. Love is the big big one that can be seen as so many different things, so a guy is often very carefull who he makes that kind of commitment to.
It makes men feel vulnerable to admit they are in love. and most men do not like to have their feelings on their sleeves..they fear rejection also...
I think a lot of men can have a hard time recognizing that they are in love. Sometimes it causes a lot of confusion and mixed feelings. I think that many guys can also have a hard time admitting it because they think of it as a sign of weakness. Being in love with someone means that that person has power over you. Very difficult for some men to face and confess to someone.
There afraid they will get hurt.
I told someone i loved her but i had to run away cause the cementary security guards saw me with a shovel and holding the corpse :cries: