for lack of a better answer, i think it's just their nature. just my opinion. plus i think we women leave ourselves open for it.
Please don’t group all men. First I don’t think it has anything to do with a person’s gender it has to do with the person and their personality. What you say can be said about some women as well. To me it sounds like you had a crappy husband. Women can be crappy too!
Oh you mean, men *and* women? Or just men?
Here's the explanation on games that won't immediately make you happy but will offer you a deeper understanding: everyone plays games. Everyone. The word "game" has a horrible connotation in relationships and do you know why? Because people take them wayy too seriously. I know it su(ks to be hurt - but pain is part of life, love and everything worth living for. It's in the nature of the game. Very few people "play games" for the purpose of hurting other people. They are merely looking to avoid hurt themselves. Fear of rejection, competition, disloyalty and loss of control are all reasons why people "play games". It's just called the "I Don't Want to Lose" game. People who complain about other people who play this game are playing their own game called the, "I Don't Want to Get Screwed Again" game. Games are merely strategies. In relationships, there are fun games, like sex and flirting. There are painful games, like the ones I mentioned. Both are strategies to achieve a goal. Either you want to be in love, or you don't want to be hurt. Both are strategies, and you can't play them both at the same time because one will screw the other.
So in summary, sorry to say it isn't just a man thing, and the "victim" also is playing for control. Even when they say, "Men always ____", and "Im tired of playing games" - this is a strategy for control. You want to control the game.
If you understand this, you will understand why everyone plays games, it won't seem so malicious to you, and you will see alot of your own tendencies that actually serve to attract the very people who frustrate you.
power gives their insecure ego a boost
Does he have something bothering him like guilt... maybe he realizes he treats you like crap and now feels he has to try to controll you so you don't leave him...Probably his own guilt though...
No idea what makes some people criminals and others normal probably somethign is wrong with them mentaly.