Why do some parents disrespect their children, but expect respect in return?
12 Answers to "Why do some parents disrespect their children, but expect respect in return?"
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I've found that that type of parent tends to be very socially conservative, as in believing in social absolutes such as "authority figures absolutely deserve respect" or "a woman's place is absolutely in the home". I guess their minds aren't flexible enough to understand anything more than a rigid set of rules for everything.
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cuz life is unfair
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Well.....Here I go again...The minority guy..........
First, I raised three children....(boys) I'm going to take this sentence apart...
"Why do some parents disrespect their children"..............
Who says they're disrespected? When a child comes into the world they want and know two things; Sleep and Eat..........As they grow it is MY JOB to ensure their safety because they do not know the dangers that "lurk" at the staircase, sharp objects, small items they can choke on....
If I were to take away an object ONCE they could swallowed, and then 2x, 3x,4x....At which point to I finally SLAP the hand of the child......For what REASON do I do this, because I disrespect them?....NO Its because AS A PARENT......I have to "teach" them to start learning Right from Wrong..."Whats allowed and what is not".....If I don't do that, then who? YOU?....The guy down the block?.....My Child, My responsibility, no?.......
As that Child gets OLDER, say, pre-teens, early teens....Now the Problems get bigger...Messy rooms, back talk, etc...They have to be taught to RESPECT authority to Teachers, Policemen, Elders and made known to them WHY that have to be humble.....So I ask, if the child defies these BASIC society protocols, they then are an outcast, or, troublemaker or, undisciplined...If they break these rules and I punish them........This is a small MESSAGE that in the real world when they break these rules, they're not going to get grounded to the bedroom, they may go to jail....OR if still in school, they get thrown out ..and the consequences from that are....?
This is not DISRESPECT no more than my Drill Sgt. In the army who constantly broke his leg off in my @ss about being PREPARED for what might be, and if not followed, a Consequence will come from that....If I fail in the "field" its because my drill Sgt. FAILED ME...It was HIS job to PREPARE ME...
Part II Expect it in return...No, I demanded it...I was and am THE PARENT and when they complained, I would tell them...."When you get your own house and your own car and your own kitchen....Do what you want....but here, in my house, I'm king"......
End of story.....I never had a lot of problems with my kids....A fight here or there once in a while just "boys being boys" and they got extra home work....But, the MORE I did at home, the LESS I would have to worry they would be dead or in jail...That was MY job.....and when they fail "OUT THERE"....Its because I failed them HERE....
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Yeahhhh, I didnt say all parents & you cant say there arent parents that purposly humiliate their children & abuse them for no reason. Example: My mother is allowed to just walk into my room without knocking, not giving me any privacy, but Im not allowed to do the same. She is allowed to tell me I act like a 5 year old in front of a bunch of ppl, but I get threatened if I do the same. If I tell her something personal & private, you dont know how many times she's gone and told other ppl. But shes angry if I do the same. The point is, its setting your child up for failure. Like you said, your children learn from you and copy the things you do. Soo, a parent is allowed to go around yelling in the house over nothing and throw things when mad, but if I do the same I get my *** kicked? I thought I was suppose to be learning from you?Like (1)
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Well I hate to tell you this, young lady....You're mother is right....You have not paid the bills she has and have....You have not concerned yourself with the things she has to do on a daily bases....... Its the kids your age that assume they are their parent equal just because they sleep down the hall from them.... I sit next to the VP of engineering where I work, but that doesn't mean I think I should be paid like him.....He walks in to my office in a blink........I knock on his door....I haven't held his title nor bare his responsibilities....I'm just an engineer...He's in charge of everything....I'm in charge of just my work........ When you get older, get your own home, go through th things your mom has....and you have kids...You'll see....Its ALWAYS different when the shoe is on the other foot...... Respect what your Mother is responsible for before you look at yourself as a movie star....... And although you might say.."I'm not say''n all of that"....Actually, that's what you are saying.....You just don't see it yet........ Your Mother has forgotten things you haven't even learned yet.....You don't know the heartache and worry of a parent....Its always different... Good Luck to you
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Because some parents absolutely suck @ss.
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Some do....I agree....as well as some cops....but, you don't turn the keys over to the cell mates to fix the problem either....Sometimes, we just have to play the hand that is dealt to us.... Its not always going to be a winning hand or even play....but, you gotta anti up.... Its not right....nor wrong...Its just the way it is.....Order needs to be maintained....even if its imperfect itself.... I understand...Oh, boy do I understand......I was there too....but, neither of you guys have been here.... ;)
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I know, that's why I said some...
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The concept of respecting someone who owes you their existence, the roof over their heads, food in their mouths, clothes on their backs, schooling and future...is a fairly new one. Many parents haven't received the memo.
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some people don't deserve to have kids.
then there is the other side of that coin, sometimes good parents make a mistake, sometimes their kids push them past being reasonable and they lose the parent plot for a minute...i'll put my hand up for that. Being a parent is the hardest job you'll ever face.Like (1)
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I know, right. It's so disrespectful when your child doesn't have the sexual orientation or subconscious sex you wanted them to, right?Like (1)
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no...not right...in my view...your sexual orientation is how you're wired from conception. Some people, parents or not have a hard time with non mainstream sexual preferences..if my child came to me and said she was gay..all i'd want is for her is to be happy...i'd accept it. I love her.
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They think their children are property. Really this question is more along the lines of, "Why do some people commit to narcissism while it's entirely silly?" Those who are narcissistic think about it and those who aren't can't fathom it.
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Just don't pass it on too your kids
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A sense of entitlement that comes from from having raised them. Plus the assumption that they are smarter than the child and thus make superior decisions to it in every way.
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Stupidity?
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There is no good answer except that you owe them nothing, and when you turn 18 you can tell them to screw off.
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Funny cause I thought I owned mine till 18 then she can move out and ask me for more help.Like (1)
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Yep, they're your property until they're 18. You know, as somebody who's nearly 30 and who owns property I earned myself despite my ex-parents bad advice, parents like you really sicken me. You know that, right? If I could have children, it would be so much different.
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Posted by Alex1993 Aug 26th, 2012 at 5:18PM
I honestly don't know my grandparents are like this its almost as if they want you to bow down and kiss their foot or something :P and my knees won't bend.
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Reply by GettingOverShit Aug 26th, 2012 at 5:19PM
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Reply by Alex1993 Aug 26th, 2012 at 5:20PM
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