Why do some people appear to be numb to the idea of being loved? Is it low self esteem?
9 Answers to "Why do some people appear to be numb to the idea of being loved? Is it low self esteem?"
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It's low self-esteem, and also fear.
Some people (*cough* me *cough*) are afraid to be loved, because every time they have trusted someone who said "I love you", they were screwed over horribly in the end.
It takes a lot of time and self-work to be able to trust again, and some people either haven't started trying yet, or they are in various stages of re-learning to trust. If you love them, truly, you just have to be patient and work a little harder to prove you aren't going anywhere.Like (2)
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and yet, one cannot do all the proving...takes two to tango...and if one doesn't want to try, what's the point? A give and take...
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If you don't have the patience, perhaps it's best you move on and let that person work on his/herself, and find someone who doesn't have trust issues.
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It is tough to be vulnerable.
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I dont think it is low esteem....maybe it is....
I am at that point where i am numb....i believe once a person has been hurt enough with love...they tend to build walls to protect ourselves....
It is better to shut down than to hurt and suffer...it also gets to the point where the pain is no longer worth it....
Just like touching a hot stove....A- you either become scared from the burns and numb to pain or B- you simply stop touching itLike (1)
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and yet ironically if one is loved and feels loved, there is no greater joy in the world....but it has to be genuine, not for the sake of just the other person's emotions. It must also be reciprocated, or why bother?
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Very true
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yes i think its a huge part they don't believe in themselves thus they dont trust themselves enough to love and take care of someone
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You know, I haven't thought of it that way.
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hurtful past can led to numbness and low self esteem
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indeed...but sometimes you have to get back up and realize that not all relationships are like whatever went awry
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Just lazy to even try to make it happen, from past experiences.. make them hardly trust people so easily..
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I agree.
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Painful past experiences
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Probably a good portion of why one would think.
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Could be any number of things. Low self esteem is likely one of them.
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That's in part what I think is the cause.
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Posted by DeGracia 1 Jul 15th, 2012 at 8:45AM
Maybe thy have been hurt so much...they are in self preservation mode
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Reply by SmartSweet1 Jul 15th, 2012 at 8:46AM
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Reply by DeGracia Jul 15th, 2012 at 8:48AM
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