I agree with katielynn that they also hurt inside and want them to be in pain. But most people do it not on purpose but subconsiosly, because when others are in pain as well, they can connect to them. It's not cruel in most cases but human's flawed nature.
Because they are hurting inside and want you to also be in pain, its cruel :(
lol yes its because I just started on this site and I didn't know if that was appropriate :( But I guess thats what this site is about we all try to help one another through issues and not judge.
Wow thanks a lot :) Yes, it helps talking to someone who actually has been in that sitaution before. Because people don't understand they just say well "just don't do them" well its not really that easy :( I was going thru relationship problems with an ex and they called it a "love addiction" and when we broke up I went to that for the pain. How did you quit? Did you get help from therapists/doctors? I'm not giving up.. I think if i set my mind to it I can do it just mite take some time :P
Usually there is something going on in the bullies home life that makes them feel really bad and makes them lash out at others. It could be abuse or neglect by a family member. That could explain the behaviour by such individuals.
Beacause It Makes Them Feel Better?
Many reasons, my love. Some are hurting themselves inside and can't cope with the pain so they project it outwards onto other people. Some are incredibly insecure and as Buckysweet said it gives them a sense of power, of identity even, to control other people by being hurtful in order to get a reaction. And of course, some, like our friend specimanAB are sociopaths and behave in this way because they have a disorder.<br />
I'm so sorry you've been hurt, my love.
because they have a sense of empowerment when theyve made someone else feel bad they dont feel as bad anymore.
people who hurt others for their own fun and happness are soulless dead heartless people i belive tht their pas could have been bad so they take it out on inoccent bystanders so shame on them!!!!!! >:p
Well here's a an answer from a sociopath. I hurt people quite often through lying and deceit. I enjoy watching people get hurt or die. It's not because i hurt in the inside, it's just i don't care about peoples feelings... at all. there is barely any logic to it for me. I can't explain why i feel happy when i hurt someone. It's weird I suppose.
There are different situations, sometimes because of boredom, sometimes out of envy,sometimes because they are hurts
Really,is alien to me too,but it's happens(
i feel better when i hurt myself, at the same time i want releif from my pain it's a catch 22.
i am very much into helping others now, it takes the focus off the fact that i hate myself. it works for me too, but i have my bad days.
I wish I knew. I happen to be one of the hurters. It is something I hate in myself...but I have always hurt people. It is almost like I have a "turn on" when I do it. Currently my daughter is in love with a boy. He is from Canada and a native american. He is a innocent in many ways. My wife & daughter are pushing him to come stay with us..I am the hold out. Why? Because deep down, I know I have already targeted him as a target. PLEASE do not judge me..believe me when I tell you I HATE MYSELF ALREADY! I wish I ahd a answer as to WHY I like / do this crap! I have hrut my wife but never with my hands. I have also hurt my daughter, whom I lvoe more than life. I do not know what to do..cept find soemplace where I can be alone and nobody can be hrut by me again.
Simply, as someone who is elated after inflicting pain, I don't understand the lack of this want. It is proving to yourself that you are more. More than them, more than anyone. It is showing your power and dominance over another being. It means you can bend them to your will. Honestl, I<br />
It gives me a high to hurt people, to lessen them in any way I can. It lets off my adrenaline to know at any moment I could destroy someone. So asking "how could you" for me is "How couldn't you?" All in all some of us find it fun beyond belief. Call us monsters, but I stopped lying to myself a long time ago.
You must have very low self-esteem and you are monsters. I had someone in my life for about 7 years who tried to do this to me. I tried to help him in every humanly way possible and even let him stay with me when he was evicted. While I was at work he was reading my emails, going through documents and even trying to find out who my family members are for the sole purpose of twisting and using everything he learned to try to destroy me. I found out this was the most lying deceitful person I've ever seen in my life. At first it did hurt because I know I tried to help this person but then I realized it was all about jealousy and he did everything under the sun to try to destroy me. So KeanD, you may think you have power by doing this but I called it being a loser because if you have career and focus on yourself, you wouldn't be thinking about destroying anyone else. found out this person don't have anything and come from a family of crazy people. This is what you would call a bum and a low life.