A great big guilty conscious, that's why! So then, they turn on you, to try to make you feel just as guilty as they are..
It is so obvious, they are feeling guilty, so in order to justify their cheating behavior they get angry and defensive.
they arent happy sexually in the marriage/relationship, the spouse ignores them except to fight or cause drama, refuses to help or team up w spouse, so the one who feels ignored goes out to get revenge. "Ill show her ill get 7 blow jobs tonight by 7 hookers" ED my ***.
That's their way of getting the focus off of them and trying to "justify" whatever they did..
defensiveness and blame . .
If they cheat it's their fault period.<br />
Attacking you is a defensive mechanism where they use to try to justify themselves.