Why do some people get so deeply offended when you don't take the advice they offered?

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Because they have boundary issues. They are weak people who seek to control or to rescue others because they are avoiding healing their own wounds. Healthy strong people wouldn't care if you didn't take your advice and would not give unsolicited advice, either.

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MiniBryant	Posted Aug 5th, 2009 at 7:42PM It hurts their EGO'S and makes them feel inadequate. Rated: +2Vote for this!
TrgdyAnn	Posted Aug 5th, 2009 at 7:42PM Most people like that have a 'Savior Complex' and they want to be credited with saving the day! Rated: +2Vote for this!
Yohanna	Posted Aug 5th, 2009 at 7:42PM If it is on EP - it is probably because they believe they have the answer to your situation and want to save you from making a mistake. If it is a professional - maybe it is because it is their job to give good advice... plus the above. You have the right to not take the advice, but if what you are currently doing is not working - then I would look at trying another option. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pukirahe	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 6:15PM S/he might falsely thought that her/his advice is perfect for all people. If s/he felt offended, that would be a narural consequence. The problem is why we feel offended! Rated: +1Vote for this!
ShadowofDoubt	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 6:05PM Who knows. Did they offer the advice themselves or was it after you asked them for it. Ah well, either way people have got to realize that if they haven't been published or if they have not been endorsed by Oprah, they have not officially arrived yet. Rated: +1Vote for this!
jophiel	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 6:46PM How we give advice is important it should be communicated in a respectful manner is the advice being given correct also needs to be examined? If we accept the advice is just then it is unfortunately the stubborn ego at fault we "hate to admit we are wrong" line. Rated: +1Vote for this!
midlifemadness	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 6:00PM They must feel their advice is the way to go I guess... Did they actually come back and tell you... Im offended you didn't chose my advice? :) Rated: +1Vote for this!

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