Why do some people not feel like they deserve to be loved?

Asked By: Cici88 22-25, F 3 years ago

I've been scanning the confessions for a couple of days and have noticed a whole lot of people who don't believe they deserve unconditional love ... why do you think that is?

In response to some comments : Unconditional love does exist! It's the kind of love you would feel for your child, or for someone that no matter what they do, you will always keep loving them. That's my point of view any way.

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Posted by sensesfail Jan 25th, 2010 at 8:26PM

Low self esteem and self worth.

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Posted by masterzune Jan 25th, 2010 at 4:17PM

might be cause they have no concept of wht love really is..or they have hurt someone they loved and feel the need to be punished for it...

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Posted by jerrica Jan 26th, 2010 at 8:04AM

i never felt that way about myself, but rather i always met men who felt that way about me.

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Posted by Absolved Jan 25th, 2010 at 4:18PM

Perhaps they were never properly shown. Often parents just have kids but have their own demons to care for they have no time to show love to their offspring... this is were dysfunction is created... no matter what you come from always show somone close to you, who means a lot in your life your affection and your love, it is important but often enough most people don't love themselves in order to show love to others... and the circle goes round and round..isn't it sad, so now they either need therapy or must constantly makes themselves aware of the fact that they are valuable and mean something to someone. They search for someone to give them that sometimes they find it, however, unless you learn to truly love who you are the void cannot be filled. Hence, substance abuse, alcoholism, and many other addictions. WE ALL DESERVE LOVE AND TO LOVE OURSELVES!

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Posted by college101 Jan 25th, 2010 at 4:00PM

I don't know but it is a shame, isn't it?

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Posted by justanopinion Feb 24th, 2013 at 8:49PM

It could be because they lost someone in there life that loved them unconditionally (lke a parent). They may feel they didn't treat them right, like maybe acted like a brat at times, lied about things, and didnt have a chance to let them know they loved them back unconditionally as well.

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Posted by brokenheartedinfl Jan 27th, 2010 at 2:31AM

I think it has to do with selfsteem. People who have problems with who they are, tend to think they are inferior to others and therefore deserve less than others. How can someone love me if I'm nothing but a low life scum? Anyhow this is what i think.

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Posted by PhilosphicalNonsense Jan 25th, 2010 at 7:05PM

Because everyone has differing opinions.

Not everyone is going to agree. I for one haven't exactly done a whole to deserve being loved. I'm a penny-pinching, anti-social, lewd, bastard. I can realize and accept this about myself because that's who I prefer to be.

As I am, do I really deserve love? Hell no. But it comes my way, so I enjoy it while I can.

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Posted by PrincessMaine Jan 25th, 2010 at 4:22PM

Unconditional love is something that I pray that everyone experiences. It is the one gift the I will treasure forever from my Mom. And I will never forget it. And I do not ever believe I will ever experience it again, except from my lovely puppy dog!

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Posted by ShadowofDoubt Jan 25th, 2010 at 4:11PM

why is that so many feel they "deserve" something? who says? you're setting yourself up for all sorts of disappointments there.

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Posted by jesterjarhead Jan 25th, 2010 at 3:53PM

I belive in unconditional love and I think I deserve it, I just don't want to share it with me........... :(

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Posted by mylittleself Jan 25th, 2010 at 3:44PM

There is no such thing as an "unconditional love", why do so many people believe in it?

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