Why do we love people who we know are bad for us?

I can't answer for everyone, but our childhood has a lot to do with who we choose in our romantic relationships.....whether we had a good father, bad father, absent father....absent mother, etc....for women, we have to realize it's because of the relationship we had/did not have, with our fathers......

Read Susan Forward's "Men Who Hate Women, and The Women Who Love Them"....and "Toxic Parents" (also Susan Forward)....and "Addicted to Unhappiness" by Martha Heineman Pieper and William J. Pieper ....

because we feel like we have no one else...

Because we're stupid.
That's pretty much it.

Don't say "we", say "you". Because, I personally don't love ppl who are "bad" for me.

Who The Hell answered it for me, b/c I am stupid and I don't know what real love is.

Why do we torture ourselves with alcohol, nicotine, caffeine knowing its bad?

I think we all are little sadists who like to torture ourselves. Makes us feel alive, here and now.

So that's why I think we get people who are bad for us.
Very bad habit though...

To love someone is a great quality, but after time of figuring out that loving another is bad for ones own livelihood, one should consider a change, which is never easy. If a person is loving someone bad for them, it's usually because change can be tough to do, because there is a struggle between the heart, in which wants something that is not a mutual meeting, but the head usually knows best.

because initially it seems that those people are completely PERFECT for us... and as we get sucked in deeper it becomes apparent that they are NOT right for us. but by then it is way too late!!!

I've always veiwed this kind of "love" as our way of keeping ourselves from being hurt! I know that sounds even kind of ironic, but...

Because we think we can change them. In reality, sometimes we can, sometimes we can't.

I also have a theory that we are draw to qualities and extremes missing within ourselves. For example, someone who is meek and unassertive may be drawn to a partner who is blunt to the point of being rude. We see some quality that we lack and that we want (maybe in a less extreme form) and we are drawn to our opposite even though we know there's going to be tons of conflict. I've noticed this pattern a lot and it's fascinating even though I don't fully understand it. I guess one thing that will help is to become whole and balanced ourselves and become comfortable with those qualities we are drawn to.

IS IT POSSIBLE THAT THEY REMIND US OF OUR PARENTS