Its the age old question: IF all women like nice guys, and no women like jerks, then why are so many women with jerks, and so many nice guys alone?
Every girl feels broken. Deep down society has told them that with every and of a beautiful woman and every film portrayal of a skinny goddess. So when they see a broken guy, they see the chance to make them better the way they want to feel.
Thing is that guys aren't like that. We are pretty chill with who they are. So the girls, they try to make them better and feel happy around them, and it's fine, but they don't get why things don't get better, and the guy wonders why she is constantly harping on him. Guys love space, girls generally hate it. So he backs off, and she doesn't have that emotional feeling anymore. So they go to someone to get that from. Namely the 'friend'. You supply them with all the caring and understanding they want, and then they feel better. The guy has his moment and he feels better, then they are back together.
If you are cool being a friend, then no big. If you care for them, then you don't supply them with it. They either change themselves to make the guy happy, thereby not being worth the time, or they take a good look at what they have in front of them. Depending on how many lapdogs she has waiting for a chance that is.
I wrote up that on a bit when asked that by a lot of female friends and pointed the finger squarely on them.
Guys, read and learn, ladies, hopefully you listen.
The heart wants what the heart wants. Simple as that.
Try being a little unpredictable. The bond is strongest when there is not a constant reward but an intermittent reward. Don't always be available. Don't always do the same things. Bring something new to the table. Try a new hobby/activity.
i wish i knew ive been doing it most of my life mayb its just the thrill
I don't do that and wouldn't do that.
Jerks represent glamorous risk, so woman get attracted. When they hurt, they go to a safe one to recover. Once they have recovered, they usually go back to the fantasy of a guy bad enough to be exciting and nice enough to be a forever-his.
the grand dellusion that they can change the jerk?
also 'nicer' guys can sometimes can come across as not very assurtive and most women like assurtive guys who are more willing to make first moves or stronger impressions on them.
I don't think they want anyone who's not playing the game. I know someone who looks for arrogant pla
ya find out the hard way there the jerks not the guys. i have had lot jobs and learned lots times the first person that comes to me and starts tabad mouthing other workers is usualy the one i have watch out for.