Not sure if they conscientiously decide that, but I think not. Even though they should try to use their brain more often when choosing a partner...<br />
One theory is, that a nice guy, who is there for her and tells her how much he loves her is perceived as weak, boring, easy and/or desperate. He puts himself on the same level as her or even below her. Instead of enjoying it and giving this guy a chance, she decides she needs to aim higher. She doesn't want a guy she can have, she wants a guy, who is actually too good for her.<br />
A pla<x>yer exploits this -- he will lean back and act like he is too good for her, but stepping down from his throne of supremacy for a moment. Like he is actually doing her a favor by using her over the weekend.<br />
The other theory is, she doesn't feel like she deserves to be treated like a princess and can't accept the nice guy. Like a woman who can't accept a simple compliment with a nice "thank you", but starts arguing about how ugly she is. She don't feel worthy of a nice guy and throws herself in the arms of a jerk, who treats her the way she thinks she deserves to be treated.
the nice guys aren't pushy enough to ask the right questions. they're nice and we dont relize what we lost till they're gone
The guy she chooses is only a jerk because she didn't choose the nice guy. Nice guys aren't nice. They think they know what's best for women. They don't. They have a lil disease called Nice Guy Syndrome. Its okay for women to make their own choices on their mates. There is a reason nice guys will forever stay in the friend zone. And women do not enjoy being treated badly. And I have never once heard a woman confirm this lie. Its best for the nice guy to stop scape goating women and work on what's wrong with himself.
That is easy for you to say....Women have actually told me that they prefer the "bad boys" over nice guys simply because the can have fun with them...a very childish perspective, but a true one at that. It is not always the nice guys fault as to why he is rejected treating someone as they should be treated is not a crime no matter what society is saying nowadays.
Because if women didn't have anything to complain about with their boyfriends they would go nuts.
There is no challenge in a nice guy. No need to flex female charming powers because he is nice already. On the other hand, turning Big Boy Bad To The Bone into Mr. Responsible Family Dog with magic kisses always thrilled ladies...
That confirms what I have heard over the years...but yet there are so many unhappy women out there because their "thrills" turned out to be nightmares....
Because the nice guys are to busy being nice to ask the right questions !
Care to fill us in on what the "right" questions are?
I just posted a similar question so it is now a known Fact women act like they want a nice guy but in fact like to be treated like crap.
I hear that, but because I've never been attracted to 'bad guys' it didn't compute. And not every guy who claims he's a nice guy actually is one.
A billions yrs from now. this question will still be asked. And unresolved..
Good girls tend to like bad guys
Women are *******, they never like anything; unless it's under<br />
Their control, they control you speak to them and what you do<br />
With them, it's not fair, sugardaddy,com is more effective in meeting with women; who want someone to pay for their lifestyle, but they use you, too.
Many women aren't attracted to the "nice" guys until a "jerk" is done with them.
it's the decision between being with someone sweet and safe or being with someone fun and dangerous.... sucks, but that the choice we have to make as women.
I don´t understand this argument...what makes a "nice" guy any less fun and exciting as a "bad boy"?
Cuz the jerks as you call them (I would use a different word) have got game and if you're not on guard they'll get you to fall for their bs.
Meaning they are pathological liars that will say anything to get what they want..and that there are a lot of people who fall for it.... :( sad really
Something about "bad boys" actually turns girls on - and they apparently think they can change them into the kind of guy they want - it is like a challenge. Nice guys are more like dad's or brothers and just don't get girls juices flowing.<br />
Huge numbers of girls date guys in prison.<br />
Case in point: If you have a big motorbike - and get a girl on the the back - you are MUCH more likely to get the girls to want to sleep with you - than if you just want to go to the movies. (yes - personal experience)<br />
Guys that pose no "risk" to girls are seen as safe - and friendly - and not sleeping material. This does not apply to all girls but to many of them - just look at how many footballers can have lots of girlfriends and how they will even put up with being treated like crap - just to spend a night with them.<br />
It seems crazy to us guys but it is a fact. <br />
If you look too much like a ***** - grow a beard or get some tats - do some sport or get a motorbike. Don't dress in pastels and wear clean shoes all the time - lol
Some women see it as a challenge to turn a jerk into a nice guy.
I have a theory that women like to "fix" people and as a result they take on the bad boy as someone they can fix. Bad boys represent a challenge. The nice guy is too easy, women want the challenge.
Maybe women want to hang with nice guys, but their instinct tells them their children are better off growing up to be jerks.
Because those women are not nice women but the nice guys don't go after nice women because they are hypocrites (the one's who claim this anyway). Oh my god I hate this whole friendzone thing so much.
Gluttons for punishment? We like a "challenge," some women like to think they can "fix" or "change" men.. the answers are endless. Women are complicated creatures.