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Why does being bullied still hurt if you know they are just being bullies?

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    cmgz - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by cmgz Dec 13th, 2011 at 4:00PM

    because the motive isnt whats hurting you its fact that you are in fact being bullied

    if i smack you in the face it'll still hurt if i say im doing it to make myself feel better or because this is how i express my bad life at home

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  1. PookiePooks - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by PookiePooks Dec 13th, 2011 at 4:33PM

    yep. this is an excellent analogy thing.. thankyou!

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  2. cmgz - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by cmgz Dec 13th, 2011 at 4:46PM

    no prob :)

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9 Answers to "Why does being bullied still hurt if you know they are just being bullies?"

  1. theballerina - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by theballerina Dec 13th, 2011 at 8:14PM

    It still hurts because they are lowering your self confidence. once a person insults your flaws, you begin to look at them more carefully. they begin to stick out more and more and your brain tricks you to think that everyone only sees your flaws.

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  2. Brainyblonde - 66-70 years old - female

    Posted by Brainyblonde Dec 13th, 2011 at 5:39PM

    The idea that we must take into account people's personal problems, childhood and the pressures of their lives is what is at fault here. When someone is hurting us, we are not required to be their psychotherapist. We need to hold them as responsible as we hold ourselves; you have probably dealt with some hurt and some unfairness in your life--does that give you license to hurt others?

    Bullies hurt and humilate and they always, by definition, pick on those they perceive as weaker than themselves. If we cannot successful fight back, we feel weaker and helplessly angry--whether the bully has had a good childhood or a bad one, whether he is reacting to his own issues or not.

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  3. expo67 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by expo67 Dec 13th, 2011 at 4:42PM

    Because the victim believes they deserve it on some level. Because the victim feels powerless to stop it.

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  4. Theshepherdess - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by Theshepherdess Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:50PM

    Because they singled you out. That leaves a big question in your mind that maybe I am what they say. It's easy to pick on people. It's so easy to find a fault in someone. Do not let that intimidate you into believing them!

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  5. Missmathematics - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Missmathematics Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:40PM

    its what the bullies do to a person ie humiliate,injure ....also it depends on type of bullying...how long it lasted. How sensitive the person being bullied is . Does the victim have support ....? these factors all count. Giving bullies the bully label does not lessen the damage they cause.

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  6. PookiePooks - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by PookiePooks Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:55PM

    victim is not sensitive but has an abusive homelife.

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  7. Missmathematics - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by Missmathematics Dec 13th, 2011 at 4:02PM

    The victim needs to either remove themselves, seek help or get someone to help on their behalf depends on the victims age. The bullying must stop ....ive seen the damage 1st hand.

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  8. deltadon - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by deltadon Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:39PM

    what can i say?!.......some people are j erks.......end of story......toughen up & don't let em bother you.......waste of space anywayz

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  9. Theshepherdess - 56-60 years old - female

    Reply by Theshepherdess Dec 13th, 2011 at 10:21PM

    Bullies will pick on someone usually who's going through some challenge. My daughter experienced this. This is what makes the act so cowardly. What incredible insight it gives the one being bullied into appreciating good traits in people who are not like this. It will make them a step ahead in understanding and appreciating the ones around them worthy of same.

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  10. myephaunts - 70+ years old

    Posted by myephaunts Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:37PM

    Because they allow them to hurt them

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  11. Missmathematics - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by Missmathematics Dec 13th, 2011 at 5:29PM

    not in the case of children ...they cant defend themselves or even understand what happening to them and why.

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  12. myephaunts - 70+ years old

    Reply by myephaunts Dec 13th, 2011 at 5:31PM

    so true that is why no kids should be on the internet ineracting with complete strangers-I was more referring to adults being bullied.

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  13. gurucarcar - 41-45 years old

    Posted by gurucarcar Dec 13th, 2011 at 3:37PM

    Knowing doesn't bring you comfort. It hurts when anyone goes out of their way to purposely cause you harm.

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