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Asked By: jumelle 18-21  1 year ago

...even though this is not true for everyone?

I chose my orientation and I can change it all day and all night. It kind of weirds me out when people say things like " this not a choice" even though for a lot of people it is. Why is it necessary to talk about these things with such ham-fisted generalizations? 0:

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  1. inthebelljar - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by inthebelljar May 4th, 2012 at 10:05PM

    no, who you are wired to be attracted to is usually not a choice... perhaps you are not sure about your own orientation yet or just ambivalent, i don't know but you cannot generalize about people based solely on your experience..

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  2. jumelle - 18-21 years old

    Reply by jumelle May 4th, 2012 at 10:15PM

    No, my sexual orientation is not a choice and I am not confused. If you read what I'm saying, you'd also find out that I am not generalizing anyone (I even put a disclaimer into the question saying that not everyone's experiences are identical to mine, for crying out loud) I was complaining about people generalizing about humanity as a whole, saying that sexual orientation is absolutely, never under any circumstance a choice. Except this is a choice for some. It's obnoxious that everyone's adopted this "not a choice" narrative, because people who do have options are automatically written off as being "not sure" or "ambivalent."

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  3. inthebelljar - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by inthebelljar May 4th, 2012 at 10:21PM

    sorry, did not mean to offend you.. but i think when people say that sexual orientation is not a choice they mean that we are all who we are, naturally. that includes your sexual orientation. no matter what your sexual preferences may be, they are your natural preferences. that is all..

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  4. guidospeedo69 - 70+ years old - male

    Posted by guidospeedo69 May 4th, 2012 at 10:06PM

    Because those that insist it is a choice want validation for their actions and lifestyle. Hint; If it was natural and genetic then animals would also share the same trait but they don't. Ever see two male deer going at it? You don't!

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  5. jumelle - 18-21 years old

    Reply by jumelle May 4th, 2012 at 10:11PM

    II'm not entirely sure of the point you're trying to make (sorry) but humans are animals. Besides that- bonobos, those two gay penguins, shoot, just check this wiki page: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals Animals gay it up like nobody's business, dude.

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  6. guidospeedo69 - 70+ years old - male

    Reply by guidospeedo69 May 4th, 2012 at 10:13PM

    I've seen it and it has to do with dominance not sex. Like a male dog humping another male. Same thing. My point is obvious. No I'm not a hater or gay basher. My brother is gay.

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  7. lipbloss - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by lipbloss May 4th, 2012 at 10:05PM

    I just changed my orientation. Now I'm facing the kitchen.
    It needs cleaning :/

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  8. jumelle - 18-21 years old

    Reply by jumelle May 4th, 2012 at 10:11PM

    I can't mention sex or sexuality in these questions or else they are booted to mature topics. :T

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