Why does it hurt so much finding out that an ex has moved on? I have my views but I'm interested to read yours...
10 Answers to "Why does it hurt so much finding out that an ex has moved on? I have my views but I'm interested to read yours..."
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I'm always glad when an ex moves on, because then they'll leave me alone.
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haha, great answerLike (1)
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Love,something that can feel so beautiful can also be the most hurtful pain in the world. About 5 months ago I found out the man I loved for a very long time is now married with 2 children. Im glad he is happy, but it was painful for a few days.
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I love this response. Its knowing that door that was once opened between the both of you is now closed. And moments you shared flash in your head like a film that seems to not belong to you because hes now sharing them with someone else. Its so difficult!
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Finality
I think it is also a sense that you gave them some of you and they are who they are because of you and know they are giving this to another. It feels like they are trading on your intimacy.Like (2)
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I guess I have a different point of view. I like it when an ex moves on, that means she will now leave me alone.
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it only hurts when you're selfish
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I hate saying goodbye, and hate confirmation of that goodbye. So yeah I suppose its selfishness that sparks that because I dislike endings haha.
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Emotions left with an ex remain there until they decay, to keep yours around and find out an ex has moved on would ensure you that its over. The possiblies of getting back together...
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Could not agree more. Its confirmation mentally and emotionally that its over
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Because you care or love them still. If you didn't care, you wouldn't feel anything.
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Hmm I beg to differ. I think if love was there once it never dies, doesn't mean you still do, or would accept them back into your life romantically but you will always care for their wellbeing no matter if they did you wrong at points. Suppose thats just me.
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It doesn't sound like you disagree with me at all, but rather validated my point. I never said that if love was there once it has a chance of dying. If it was ever there (the operative word being 'if'), then there's a good chance it'll hurt. If instead you went through the motions of being in love without actually being in love, then there's a pretty good chance that you will get over it quickly.
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its natural when u lov e someone from heart and even though u broke up it hurts afterwards finding that he moved on because u once loved him from heart
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Yeah I agree with you there. I really dislike when things end. And finding out that hes moved on confirms its over even though I wouldn't want to go there again. Its like saying goodbye to a bitter sweet part of my life which I find difficult to deal with! End of an era so to speak
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dont be sad , it a sign of happiness that u have a heart otherwise i seee many girls with no hurt . u are unique keeeep it that way
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Jealousy makes me hurt when they've moved on.
Guilt makes me hurt when they haven't.
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Best Answer (Chosen By Asker):
Posted by Wyndie1 Aug 14th, 2012 at 12:08AM
It normally hurts because you still care about that person. When they move on you realize they are not coming back and there is a place inside you that wishes they would. When YOU move on it stops hurting because your interest has moved on to a new person.
I have been divorced for about 19 years however if my ex got re-married I might feel a twing of sorrow. I love him because he is the father of my child, but I am not IN love with him any longer, he killed that with his affairs.
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