Why does it seem that men don't have a hard time dealing with a breakup? How do they hide it so well?
23 Answers to "Why does it seem that men don't have a hard time dealing with a breakup? How do they hide it so well?"
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Most men don't process grief or sadness the way women do and they VERY rarely make a big show about it. Women tend to believe that if they look, sound and make a big drama about being miserable it will bring their guy back when most of the time it drives him further away. Best advice I have ever received about trying to revive a relationship was to remind him why he fell in love with you, not remind him why he left. It seems simple, but us girls just don't seem to realize that a guilt trip wont bring him back and if it does, it wont stick.
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some are too dumb to realize what they lost...till its too late..
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because some of us would give up if we didn't :(
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We compartmentalize
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Men do have a hard time dealing with a breakup...especially if its been some years or they really had genuine feelings for the lady! They may not show it in public for the fact they were raised that showing emotions makes them weak. But trust & believe me they go thru it they may not be "boo-hooing" like women do or having the all-womens convention in the living room but men have subtle signs, especially if he really cared about the girl it comes out thru headaches, sleeping a little more than usual, the once everyday routine falls off, what he once enjoyed he has little interest...This all comes out if he really misses the girl...But if not...They keep it movin as is if you never existed!
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Not all men are heartless but the ones that are certainly make the rest of team look like dickheads.
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You are so right. Thanks.
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Ah bullshite. Men start feeling bad about the break up around the same time a woman feels better about it.
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Most men aren't emotional enough to show their feelings. Some compensate their sadness doing other things such as drinking, etc.
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I can't hide it. But most can because a lot of dudes go through women like they go through clothes. Or because they have a handful of homiez to hang out with to get their minds off things. I'm pretty much a loner.
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But the one's who hang with the homies or have a mess of women doesn't it eventually hit em? Like at some point don't they sit and think about it?
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Maybe but none of the dudes I used to hang with from my past showed that. They were always screwing different women so it didn't matter to them.
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One brain difference between males and females is the size of the corpus callosum. This part of the brain is often much bigger in females than males. This part of the brain lies in the middle of the two halves of the brain and connects the left and right cerebral hemispheres. It is crucial in helping the two halves of the brain work together and to send information back and forth. Due to this men may not make the same inferences and connections between emotions that you do. This is also be why males can compartmentalize sex and emotion and do not make a connection between the two as females often do.
As everyone knows, men and women are different, very different. We are raised differently and there are other differences as well.Like (2)
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I drank alot !!! then I woke up when i met someone who loved me for me !! don't drink much at all now
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That's good! :)
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They usually cry when no one is looking, or cry later. If they do cry.
Dealing with the now is more important then crying..Like (2)
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Us guys really are not allowed to voice opinions of breakups if they are heartfelt... we really are not encouraged to share our emotions that way.
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It's been my experience that, despite stereotypes, men have a greater investment in 'personal relationships', than women do. Whether it's 'pride', 'vanity', 'machismo', or whatever-- men are personally hurt by the breakup more than women are.
Their "hiding it" is mere bravado.Like (2)
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Men have a horrendous suicide rate after wives get a divorce. I have no clue why you assume that men are not having problems.
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Because they don't show it, but you're absolutely right. Men suffer internally, which oftentimes is worse because when it does come out you get an explosion of emotion.
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that's only statistics. Not the case for myself
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Because they hide there emotions, womens and girl's by natural having soft hearts they shows there feelings.
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umm I for one suffered from my breakup, been a total wreck but just faked a smile with everybody else but that's just me
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Had to give up my personal friend, well girlfriend after three years because my wife and I reconciled. It was the right thing to do. It has been 20 years and I still think about her. It was so hard for me you can't imagine. I cried, my chest hurt from heartbreak. but I never showed it except to the person I had to breakup with. what good would it do.
I still wonder what my life would have been like if I had decided the other way. Also, men get busy and distract themselves, hobbys, drinking, work, maybe the next lover. Like losing your favorite dog, get another one. I'm not comparing her to a dog, just saying it is like that kind of.Like (1)
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Posted by chimbie88 Jan 14th, 2013 at 12:10PM
Most men don't show emotions period. It doesn't mean they don't have a hard time though...
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Reply by ellemenope Jan 14th, 2013 at 12:22PM
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Reply by chimbie88 Jan 14th, 2013 at 12:25PM
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