Why does my boyfriend of 4 years not give a crap anymore? It's like he doesn't even want to try anymore:(
15 Answers to "Why does my boyfriend of 4 years not give a crap anymore? It's like he doesn't even want to try anymore:("
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hey sweetie sorry for that feeling you must have felt....
well if he starts not giving a crap it may be because he takes you for granted and it is not love that he feels anymore but he feels he possess you..
i know its not a very nice feeling hearing that from an outsider who knows nothing of you but still i think i understand you...
Do what you feel is best for you because if you are in a relationship its because you want someone who cares for you who loves you and make you happy...
Is what you are experiencing love?
are you happy?
if not move on....love is a great feeling it only brings happiness not tears...small fights are ok but to what extent????
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because you're like an old married couple already?
it's all comfortable and familiar like an old pair of bluejeans, broken in and faded.
he takes you for granted, and you miss the excitement and butterflies.Like (1)
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Ive read your replies to comments and sorry if you already answered this:
Have you talked to him about it? What does he say?
If you've told him how you feel and he's not willing to change then you should think seriously about your next move.Like (1)
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He says he doesn't know why either. He says he loves me so much somedays, and that I'm so perfect, there couldn't be anyone better and then the next he just doesn't want anything to do with me. I just don't know why he's like that, I asked him to talk to someone about it, his dad or like a therapist to see if it's just something wrong with him emotionally or if I'm just not the right girl for him. I just think it'd be really sad to throw away the last 4 years when we could totally make it good again. I just need him to have to desire to want to try.
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He just needs to make an effort. It could be any one of a number of reasons and I know I've been like that in the past. You have to go a little outside your comfort zone sometimes to actually discover that there are things you can do that you will enjoy that isnt just the usual daily grind of going to work, coming home, playing video games/whatever you usually do and then going to bed. Is there anything he hasnt done that he really wants to do? EG something you can plan for the weekend. Just as an example - parachuting or something nutty like that? Country walks? Paintballing? Could be anything. Anything that he's interested in that will put a bit of excitement into him might help.
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Sounds like he doesn't love you. Why don't you ask HIM the question?
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It isn't a crime for someone's feelings to change. Perhaps he now bored with the relationship but is worried about hurting you by breaking up. Let him go.
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Just be glad you're learning this as his girlfriend and not as his wife. Consider yourself lucky.
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he is sick of you
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Sorry for your loss. Any chance he feels the same of you?
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Because he's probably sick & tired of fighting... You probably need a break from each other?
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He wants to move on ....put his belongings in some bags and help him out
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You should sit down and have an honest conversation with him. If he's not willing to compromise then walk away. Life is too short x
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There are SO MANY MEN OUT THERE. Don't settle.
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Really sorry to hear that:(
Could be many reasons. Possibly not related to you at all.
Its a tough thing to deal with..
Maybe start thinking about making some changes..
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he's having an affair.
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isn't that always the answer? lolLike (1)
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He's not though, he doesn't do anything except work and play video games lol
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Posted by onwayout Jun 14th, 2012 at 8:37AM
It sounds like you're doing all the work trying to keep this relationship alive and hopping. Sometimes, people grow apart and it's time to move on, it just wasn't meant to be for the long term. But that doesn't mean that you can't take away something positive from it. Or maybe you need to just start doing your own thing, don't always be there for him, make yourself busy. If he notices and misses you, he'll make an effort. Sometimes, familiarity can breed comfort and you can take people for granted, assume that they are going to be there always. Give him space while you pursue other interests. If he's not coming after you, there's lots of other guys out there.
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Reply by ummmyea Jun 14th, 2012 at 9:02AM
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Reply by onwayout Jun 14th, 2012 at 9:11AM
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