it's all about him
Are you saying that he does everything you tell him to do so all would be fine but that he cheats? Maybe he is overreacting to your control. Whatever the reason, you two have a messy marriage to clean up if you want to stay together.
He acts cooperatively by doing everything you want him to do. He acts the exact opposite by cheating
It probably give him a sense of autonomy. Of being the master of his life. You know. all that pop psycho babble stuff.
Is there any answer that would really satisfy that question? Cheaters cheat usually because they can...any other excuse is just that...an excuse
He listens to her too? Conflict of interests perhaps
what she wants and what you want are to different things. :)