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My parents want me to settle down, have kids. But marriage is something I never want to do. The thought of marriage freaks me out. Anyone here feels the same?
Waocky Waocky 26-30, F 20 Answers Nov 9, 2012 in Marriage

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If you feel you should not be married, then do not get married. However, keep an open mind and embrace the future. You never really know what the future may bring or how your feelings may change.

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You're not the only one. Marriage isn't for everyone.

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Sounds like a fear or dread of limitations - wait till you are ready and sure you are equals.

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Woman you need to adjust that attitude of yours, buck up, get married. have kids, buy a house, keep it clean and learn to cook. What's your problem?........lol

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It makes you "depressed" because you're listening to what others say you should be doing. No one knows what's right for you ... even though I'm sure you're parents just want the best for you.



If it doesn't feel like it's right for you ... then it isn't at this point.



Just tell your parents that you appreciate their concern, but you're happy with your life as it is. Hopefully, they'll understand that they certainly would not want to pressure or rush you into doing something that you're not interested in now.

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Yes. I feel the same....the thought of getting married isn't that exciting to me. It does freak me out, too. Maybe you're just not ready to get married....I know I'm not. I'm guessing it just works for two people who truly love each other.

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Why would you marry just to appease your parents? Marrying for any other reason than love will only lead to one thing - pain.

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You would know if you were born in my country and raised in the way I was raised.
I always felt I should have been born somewhere in different part of the world :(

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If you're talking about the whole culture of arranged marriages and women breeding then I do feel for your predicament as a modern woman dealing with ancient beliefs, but it's your life nobody else's. The secret to true happiness is to achieve what you want out of your life not what others want you to achieve or be.

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I had the same way before but i sit down with them and tell them im not ready, and i dont want blaming them or myself if ever it will fail.. and I that I need more time for myself to prepare for that life time commitment.

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Because I haven't proposed yet. ;)

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with out marraige then what will you do how you live alone

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you're just not in that mental space at the moment, I've had friends who are gung-ho about settling down, and another like you and he was once engaged.

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Don't know about you but the thought of me getting married again makes me wanna hurl...

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do you know anyone who is married but not depressed?

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yup, my parents!!

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So marry someone who doesn't want kids lol, then you can blame him

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Its just not the kids. Kids are wonderful. I just dont like the feeling of getting married. It scares me.

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