This pain will never completely go away. But it can become more tolerable by shifting the experience into an opportunity for healing for everyone involved. By reporting the abuse to the proper authorities, the people who committed these horrible acts against you will be required to get professional help in addressing their actions and in that, what happened to them that caused them to become the abuser. Every abuser was once a victim. It's a cycle. That when properly addressed ends the cycle.
Also, you may find at some point later in life, that you might want to become active as a support person for the abused or better yet, an educator working with people that could be at risk of committing such acts, before it ever happens. To inform them, first hand exactly how it affects a persons life and possibly be a big part of the movement that puts an end to this devastating behavior that is unfortunately common place through out the world.
Your pain may never go away, but sometimes pain is more tolerable when we find ways to keep the pain from ever becoming a part of another beautiful humans life.
The darkness of abuse will always be dark, but darkness dims when exposed to the light.
I too share your pain first hand, and speak to you from a place of knowing.
My heart goes out to you, may you find that you are still brave and pure regardless of others infliction of their own torture.
When your 18 you have to leave home and go see a therapist again. Then tell them whatever you want. You need help to get over it.
But as horrible as this is i think the pains going to be around for a while yet possibly forever. I was abused too (no where near as badly) and sometimes the recollection is enough to send me into fits of furniture assaulting rage even now.
I can't imagine coping with how much worse it had to have been for you or how much stronger the emotion is now.
come on !!!! you r not a toy now u can do anything u want !!! just keep one thing in your mind its just you nothing else !!!
Traumatic events ALWAYS stick with a person for a VERY long time
Im sorry for that hun ...jus take it ONE day at a TIME *hugz* :)
Its going to take time but once you realize that you have so many life experiences ahead of you, you will learn to let go of the past...as long as you take on day at a time the healing process will make you a stronger person :)
Cause you keep on holding onto things that you should let go.
You tell me!
Need the whole story.
Did u actually READ her DETAILS ?...what MORE do U need ?..o.O
Not having to understand or experience it myself, I cannot relate in the slightest. But as a EP responder, I must say that you must stay strong and never blame yourself. You still have a bright future and focus on that.
And it wasn't in the details BEFORE!
U mean when U answered ?
CERTAIN thingz u dont HAVE to experience to understand
So, you're telling me you can honestly understand how she feels or understand what's going through her mind!??!? That's bull.
With a SIMPLE senerio like that , it doesnt take a GENIOUS ...unfortunately , its the kinda thing that happenz EVERYDAY , all OVER the world
I have no idea where you get the idea that it's "SIMPLE". Yes, this kind of thing happens all over the world, but it's not "SIMPLE". Every situation is different and to be able to understand it is not going to be "SIMPLE". You can read all about it but does not mean you're an expert about it. To say it's "SIMPLE", you're insulting victims out there!
Pull the splinter out of your finger!
With certain TRAUMATIC experiencez ...its not THAT easy
& btw , being raped n abused for 10 yrs by 3 family memberz is a BIT diff than pulling a SIMPLE splinter outa yur finger ..which ONLY hurts for a SECOND