Seriously? You need to drop this ****** on his gulliver and let him drip krovvy because he need not hit on other malenky ptitsas when he already has a perfectly good Baboochka
Poor man is so very insecure. He wants you to have to compete with your friends for his affections, thus making you question your own self worth and desirability.... so you feel "lucky" to be with him and don't leave his sorry a$$. So sad that some men feel the need to act this way.
well if he wont tell you i will
your pretty...so cute
and a big loving ...HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
because you're a doormat. sorry, but that's the way it is.
As in all behavior of this type, there is something wrong with the relationship. Have you told him how the comments make you feel? Not in an accusing manner, but to truly communicate your feelings so he will be less defensive. Then you need to find a way to fix it.
I feel badly for you. The absolute worst feeling in a relationship is the lack of appreciation. IMHO, he needs to understand that the issue is serious and that work is no excuse. Being tired doesn't mean that you are excused from expressing your feelings. Suggest then demand counseling. Something is going on with him that needs to be addressed. Best of luck to you.
If he won't participate in fixing the relationship, you will have to face whether you can live like this for the rest of your life. He will find that divorce will cost him way more than getting off his *** and fixing the problem.
Doesn't the responsibility of "fixing it" lie with the partner in this case, since he seems to be the one with the problem? I'm wondering if his behavior is conscious or unconscious. If it's an unconscious thing, perhaps some honest and open - non-accusatory - communication will change things for the better as you suggest. If it's actually a conscious behavior and he's well aware that this flattery makes his lady deeply uncomfortable and sad, then I suspect he is controlling and manipulative in the extreme. No-one can be "fixed." It's up to him to acknowledge the problem and be willing to change his behavior to improve the relationship. If he fails to recognize the pain that he is causing perhaps he enjoys the illusion of control and if he refuses to address the situation my advice to this lady would be, "Run!" as it will only get worse. Emotional abuse is insidious and very damaging if allowed to continue unchecked.
If you don't tell him how you feel, then it will never change. Tell him I said he was being ignorant.
its men like these who drive their wives into having an extramarital affair.They dont appreciate coz they are sadistic ,they dont want you to feel happy and proud.They want you to think that they are too good for you but in reality they suffer from an inferiority complex. thats what is your husband. he doesnt want you to get the idea that you are better than him..so he never appreciates.
because he knows that modern women resent that kind of paternalist behaviour. he respects you too much.
the real question at hand is how do you treat him? how do you feel about your self image? do you just think that maybe he makes comments bout you but you dont notice them? If i was you I would ask him maybe he just thinks you know how he feels about you but really you need to talk to him.
I'm gonna stick up for him a little. I think it's very easy to fall into the trap of thinking "oh, she knows I find her attractive, why would she want to hear it a million more times?"
I was with a girl just about a year, maybe 18 months and I got comfortable, complacent even, and took her for granted for a while. I realised my mistake and we worked things out at that stage. I never stopped finding her attractive, not by any means, I just stopped actively commenting on it. We lasted 2 years in the end and it was never an issue after we spoke about it.
Try some subtle reminders first, like asking him how you look, and move on to more blatant questions if you get no response. Ask him why he doesn't comment any more. Tell him you feel less attractive and you'd always welcome hearing him tell you you look nice.
Talk it out.
effy2012 is right, hes playing somekind of sick game, maybe just with himself. Possibly hes figured out that he SHOULD say these things, but doesn't actually understand how to interact for real.