Now that's the ego at play I think !<br />
Conflict Avoidance is one of the most amazing things I see people today. We don't like conflict, we don't like to take responsibility because it sometimes brings on conflict. Let's party tonight and then worry about the consequences tomorrow whether it be pregnancy, spent grocery money, rent money. you would rather have a fun time and avoid conflict then stop what were doing and make the rational decision. We can't tell our friends that we have to stop partying because we can't afford it, I can't walk away from a chance to have sex can ?
It's called pride and it can be ugly. When I make a mistake, I call it, a tool in my tool box, learn from it and not do it again. It has nothing to do with my childhood, relationships or anything else. We are all adults and have choices we have to make, it is sad when people want to blame others for it. Just not right, takes a real man or woman to admit, the blew it.
Professors now instill that the world is sinister and if you don't go far you're a victim. Old fashion hard word and dedication is thought of by them as a myth.
I will take responsibility for my mistakes - maybe others will copy me?
Denial. Not grown up. Likes to blame other people. Sometimes it's not even their fault either.<br />
I try to take responsibilities for my own life but other people it's not my fault. It's just a life lesson. Very often i do blame myself for everything i went thru and it's really hard and in turn it damages my self esteem and ended up being single for a long time.
Because it's easier to put the blame on someone else, but we all know how that works out.
Because for the past 40 -45 years, we've made children feel no sense of responsibility. It's not your fault, little Johnny or Susie, we'll clear this mess up and you just go play, and have a gold star while you're at it. They're never wrong in school, they never lose in games or contests, they get no discipline at home ... So expecting people in this children's feelings-obsessed society to grow up with any sense of personal responsibility is unrealistic.
A lot of it has to do with Ego. I have a friend who is like this. <br />
She is so filled with Pride, she won't earn to her own mistakes at all. No matter if she is in the wrong. In fact, she will not even say sorry at all, because of her pride.
Pride and the simple fact that we don't have<br />
any media celebs that take personal responsibility<br />
Lance Armstrong sued many, when they had him dead to rights using steroids.<br />
Oscar Pasturius initially told the police that he shot an intruder but others heard him arguing with his girlfriend.<br />
The President tried to make a way for lower cost health insurance, all premiums... Hit the roof 1/2013 only to fall back 1/2014.<br />
Pride is before a crash and its so hard to accept or fess up to our mistakes.
Thank you for BA.
You get in less trouble if you can blame them on someone else?
To be more precise, you can fool most of the people some of the time, some of the people most of the time, but you can't fool all the the people all of the time. But, in reality, fooling the important ones when you need to is enough to get you by
ego, they are indoctrinated!