Hmmm. I had one affair where it was easy to let go as we ended it by mutual consent, but where one party ends it, it is very difficult.
If you are married there is an absolute golden rule: Always have an affair with someone who is married. that way when/if it ends there wont be any bitter phone calls with unwelcome revelations.
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Divert your attention, find a hobby, new affair, get enthusiastic about some social cause... just channel that emotional energy somewhere and stop winding yourself up with bittersweet memories.
Why even have an affair? Seriously, you guys talk about the pain of ending an affair! How about the pain of the spouse who's been cheated? My wife cheated on me after five years and the worst with her ex bf. If y'all so miserable why don't you just ask for a divorce instead of lying and cheating?? I'll tell you why... Because all you want to be is selfish and arrogant by thinking you deserve to be happy on your own way. Ridiculous and stupid.
I feel your pain. Time heals all wounds I guess, and no contact is going to have to be the way to go.
Because you think of them every day. Put your mind on other things. Or, if you have to re-play your affair, remember the reasons why it ended. Either you had reasons for breaking up with this person or he/she broke up with you. Either is painful. If you remember all the pain it has caused you, maybe you will get mad enough to decide to take your own side in this and go out and find someone else. Or at least some new friends. Decide to monitor your thinking. And move on.