Because when its good its wonderful , and you hold on to that wonderful like precious pearls, even through the madness.
You'll know when you hit the point of "sick and tired" and when I mean "SICK AND TIRED", you will do whatever you have to do without hesitation to get out of bad relationship and fear of doing so to better yourself and your future will NOT hold you bad. I can tell you exactly why you are with that person. You are going to deny this a hundred times, but the truth of the matter is, there is something in YOU that likes what this person is doing to you that has labeled your relationship abusive. There is something in your that attracts you to how that person is treating you and because you haven't hit that "SICK AND EFFIN' TIRED" point, that relationship will continue to be too hard to get out of. God forbid that you get your answer of getting out of that relationship in the form of something tragic other than walking away. <br />
So, evaluate yourself first. Once you do that and come to a point where YOU come first and that no person who treats you less than you are is worth it, then that's how you know when its time to throw in the towel. Don't let a bad boyfriend or girlfriend stop you from getting the blessings that you were meant to have.
because it is fimiliar and in the bottom of of our heart we think we can "fix" the person or that we deserve to be treated that way because of our own actions...there are a lot of reasons but the best one is get out....fix yourself, heal up, find what is right for you and "get off your own back and get on your own team"
A person has to be mentally Ill or has a Death Wish to stay in an abusive relationship. If they would only ask for help, their worries would be over. But, we all know, most women will not stay away from them, and many of them die from being beaten to death. The Abusive male, will always get worse. Unless his is stopped, he will often kill, or be killed..
Wow, all really great answers.....Hopefully you get out and look back and think OMG...what was I thinking. Those are always wonderful moments to experience! Good Luck....there is happiness outside of that relationship.
I know its hard, been there done that, emotionally abusive anyway but you have to gather all of the strenght you can and just leave...it hardly ever changes, get out before its too late !
Because the abuser's biggest tool is to ***** your confidence. They use other things too but this is the main one. Once they have ******** that confidence you will feel like you have nothing if you dont have them. That is exactly what they want.<br />
Also if youve been thru a lot of pain and suffering, hoping that things will get better with them it will feel like that investment is for nothing and you have lost it all. The longer you stay the more you feel that investment is. Once again playing into their hands.<br />
You can try and talk to the person about it calmly, honestly and supportively. They may or may not improve. If you dont see signs of improvement or you have been intimidated that badly you cant even discuss it with them. Well im sorry fella but your best bet will be to pack up and go. Id love to give you a sugar coated answer but this is what i believe.<br />
Good luck :)
once again if you have kids that's what makes it hard to do so