Why is it so hard to leave family?
I got excepted into Job Corps and they gave me a dorm. I move in tomorrow but I am already having a hard time thinking about it. I feel sad to leave my family, it feels like someone ripped my heart out. Im going to miss them so badly and even my cat. I cant imagine a life without it all but I know that I need to do this. I have to try. Im so scared about it. Have you ever had a hard time moving out from your family home? Why is this so hard? What has helped you get through it all?
6 Answers to "Why is it so hard to leave family?"
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life is all about family.
I can't tell you how many times I thought I had real close friends, and it turns out that when it comes down to it, everybody's on their own. everyon'e a backstabber if they can get something out of it. your family is the only group of people that will favor you regardless of the situation.Like (1)
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You may find life away from family is a life with less drama and heartache. You may find more cash in your bank account. That is what I found, yet I miss them. If I moved back I would probabaly quickly wonder what the hell I was thinking. But one may wonder that life is all about family.
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I remember leaving home vividly. It is so alien the first few weeks. Then you look back and see that you have gotten used to a new life, and that while you still miss your family and cat (I can relate to the cat - I had to leave my 13 year old cat who was my friend since I was 5), your new life is unfolding before you and you are not the person you used to be, but now you are so much more. And your family will still be there for you. So it is hard and scary, but stretches you way beyond who you thought you were.
How I got through it was to sit down and have quiet time to feel how I was feeling, and to give myself support - sometimes cheers for facing so many new scary things, sometimes comforts like reading a favorite author, sometimes acknowledgement for how much is changing and how hard that is. Also, I called my family and asked for emotional support when I needed it.Like (1)
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Well, I think you covered it pretty well. Family is security, family is continuity. Leaving family casts you adrift on Life's ebb & flo. I don't mean to get too philosophical.... let alone poetic, but leaving family is a fundamental change that cuts deep.
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I didn't because I came from a dysfunctional abusive multi-generational alcoholic family. But eventually almost everyone has to leave their family. But it's not like you are moving to another planet. You/they can write/call and possibly visit. You can also get a new cat for yourself. Good Luck.
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Posted by fishsweeper 1 May 10th, 2012 at 12:45AM
Family is a 'life-sucking love bug' that gives you all of the strength that you need when you depend on them... Time to get grown-up!
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