You let me know when/if you find an answer to this. (Please)
Self reflection and being 100% honest with yourself. It is hardest to see the real us.
Your ego has a difficult time admitting its wrong but it's easy to demonize and see the fault in others ,most of us only see the truth in hindsight cause in the moment it's hard for us to come to terms with us being irrational never taking time to think or strategize because by default (in our heads) we are the epitome of rationality -knowledge brought to u from the projects
maybe just look back at what you're telling others and see how it could apply to your own life.