He gets angry at you for getting sick because that inconveniences him?<br />
To be frank, it sounds like he's a petulant, selfish jackass who cares more about being waited on than he does about your well-being. My sympathies.
he sounds so bloody selfish and u sound to good for him in my opinion..its because he might actually have to think of some1 else apart from hes self for a change and that is burning him..<br />
im in a crappy situation with my bloke also so im not going to tell u to leave him and be hypocritical but please at least start putting urself first xx
It's your own fault. Fight the illness. say to the illness, "look what's that in the sky" then PUNCH illness right in the neck
Maybe it reminds him on how vulnerable he is and he can't handle that.
I know how you feel. thesame thing happens to me only he gets<br />
verbaly abusive and treats me like I have the plague.<br />
It happened to me this morning and I was ready to walk out.<br />
Think about it. It is really a dumb thing to get angry about.<br />
It's just part of life and everybody gets sick
I understand how you feel, my partner is the same. I think it is about his inability to change how I'm feeling. He seems to not only be angery at me but also at his own helplessness to do anything. I think as soon as he gets frightened he also gets angry. I think it is a fight, flight freeze reaction. Try discussing this with your partner when he is calm. Did his family respond to illness in the same way? Maybe you need to tell him how you would like him to respond when you are ill. It might work if you give it a try.
dont you dare feel guilty you are sick and he needs to grow up and guit being a big baby and take care of himself
because he hopes your faking so he wont have to pay out cash on your "sickness". lemme guess; have you ever heard him say; must you go to see a doctor every time you get sick...? <br />
"its just a money thing with him. Iv seen that one tons of times even in person when I worked in H/R helping out in group therapy sessions back in 1970 at the Mental Health clinic off of cooper in Arlington Tx.<br />
My aunt Caroline worked there as an administrator assistant- thats how I could work there being only 16
Apparently this is quite common, linked to previous experience of being sick and it's his feelings he is angry with not you. He is also facing a loss when you are sick but maybe this loss he is not aware of - so he doesn't understand why he feels angry about this loss. <br />
And I agree with the another comment as well, that he maybe under some other pressure or stress even if you/ he are not aware of it.<br />
If he thinks you are making a deal out of it, he may feel angry at your 'inability' to think positively about it. <br />
You want your partner to be there supporting you especially when you are sick right, but he prefer to deny you are sick to reduce his own stress or pain (in 'denial') especially if he feels overwhelm how to manage the situation. <br />
Guys maybe less resourceful than gals and are less good at finding solutions, being creative etc etc so they just 'can't deal with it'.<br />
This is a hotchpotch of ideas, I understand how you feel.
IN MY OPINION..only<br />
Men have a hard time expressing their frustration of NOT being able to help another........so it usually comes out in anger. When worried or feeling somehow they feel unable to be of use in a certain circumstance...anger comes to the surface..instead of actual feelings. IT is not that you are sick that they anger from........
probably because he knows he aint gonna get none
I agree with most of the other comments -- it sounds like he is being a spoiled, petulant, self-absorbed jackass.<br />
However, have you tried to talk with him about this? It sounds like very strange behavior from someone who is supposed to be your partner and spouse. You seem to be too nice a person to have married that much of a jackass. Is he angry at you for some other reason? Does he perhaps think you are faking illness? Is he himself under some atypical pressure he has not shared with you?<br />
I hope you are able to talk this through with him and get it resolved. His current attitude is heading in a really bad direction.
tell him to go to hell! What it is with man,,,my father is the same way...He need to take care of you and rub your feet and make you feel better not guilty!...Do not pay attention. Tell him you have doctor orders to stay in bed and he can take care of himself and YOU!!!
He's used to you taking care of him!! You are wonder woman, didn't you know? Yeah, you're a hero. BUT remember, heroes need time off to take care of themselves. If others don't want to give you TLC, the hell with them. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! The guilt is on him....
Methinks the story is more complicated than that.
Do you get sick a lot?
Deflecting his concern for you so he doesn't have to be worried.
Omg. My husband is the same way except he starts cleaning under beds and corners and throwing **** around. I wish he would offer to get me some Campbells or tell me to sit down that he'll take care of babies. We have a 1 and 3 year old and he just starts cleaning upset like it's so filthy. I really hope I never get a serious illness cuz I'd really like to have somebody take care of me.
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Mine does to.and it really hurts my feeling he gets an attitude I'm not allowed to rest at all no way that would just be wrong I've been sick now for a week and only getting worse..I'm so tired.but when he's sick he lays around and whines about it..