The first impression is only the last when you are so narrow minded that you can not see beauty in a persons uniqueness or in their eyes or their lips or the way they move, and when you're so closed minded that you're unwilling to look past the mask we have on the outside to look deeper into the persons soul which may well leave you in awe, may be an inspiration to many, may be bursting with purity and love and compassion, may have amazingly wonderful values and outlook on life, be adventurous and sensual and exciting.
And believe me, when you hang around long enough and remove the negativity from your own mind which is far uglier than any persons looks, you might find traits that leave you bowled over and a feeling of unworthiness in their presence so large that you are blinded by them.
And then.....that will be the impression that is last.
But you may well just read this and laugh, because most narrow minded people are metaphorically illiterate in understanding such depth.
But what I can guarantee is that the narrow minded person loses out much more of life experience than the person he believes to be ugly.
cause you could be wrong about them and miss out on good things.
Because the true measure of a persons character does not reside in their appearance. Perfection is a genetic code, Character comes from the heart and soul.
judgement tends to close peoples minds
It's not wrong to have preferences it's only not nice to be rude and demeaning.
I judge a person via intuition and know in an instant what I think but never tell.
But I only look at appearance as it's relevant to the circumstances.
If I am interviewing someone to work for me I look at cleanliness and character, how they carry themselves, confidence etc.
But if I am looking for a date I have to be attracted or there is no point in going further, that's the way it is, sure its nice to have intellectual stimulation and I want that but if I am not physically attracted the issue is dead, that's what friends are for.
Hay I have long hair, I keep it trimmed and clean always, but being a man I still get followed by stupid security guards in stores etc.
I have been told more times than I care to mention by women that I would be cute if I cut off my hair and dressed up.
So I fully understand both sides of the issue here and I wont change, I like my hair, I like designer jeans and flip flops, as long as I am breathing I will never put on a suit and tie, wont catch me shopping at bargain stores or wearing polo shirts and pocket shorts hahaha YUCKSSSSSSSS
So it's only fair, if I have no attraction and wont date a woman that is fat, or doesn't have the look I like.
She has to look hot in hipster blue jeans and have long hair at least shoulder length preferably straight black, dark brown or fake blond.
Bottom line is if you don't like what others think you have 2 choices, live your life to please others or have the guts to be happy who you are and maintain the confidence to not give a crap what others think.
Hay we all have 2 middle fingers haha use em!!!!
Shallowness comes in all packages, if a person finds another visually offensive and bases all present and future comments on that, woe to that person.
'The first impression is always the last'.
This defies both common sense and experience. When I was 17 a new teacher at our school saw me as one of the most irritating and obnoxious people in her class. She saw me in an entirely different light when we met again two years later, and again three years after that when we married. She still sees me as irritating though.
Never judge a book by it's cover.
"A DEEP RICH PERSON," I SWEAR SOME OF YOU MEN ARE SO WOMANLY IT'S NO WONDER WHY SOME/MOST CAN'T SATISFY ONE.
SO LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT: IT'S BAD TO JUDGE PEOPLE WHEN THE JUDGEMENT IS "OFFENSIVE." WHAT ABOUT WHEN THE QUICK JUDGEMENT OF A PERSON INSPIRES YOU FOR THE BETTER? A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC SEEING A DRUNK AS A REMINDER TO STAY SOBER; A PERSON GOING FOR A RUN BECAUSE THEY SAW A FAT PERSON WHO LOOKED JUST LIKE THEM; A FELLOW BLACK MAN WHO ATTENDS SCHOOL HAS YOU CONSIDERING IT AS YOU WALK BY AND SEE HIM ENTERING IN THE COLLEGE.
THESE ARE WRONG TOO?
I SAY ITS YOU PEOPLE WHO ASK THESE QUESTIONS WHO ARE THE FOOLS...YOU SHOULD ALWAYS JUDGE THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU !ob
OH AND PS: SO IF I TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW A WOMAN AND I THINK SHE'S GREAT BUT I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER TOUCH HER BECAUSE SHE'S FAT AND/OR UGLY AND I AM WAY TO HANDSOME FOR HER I AM NOT AN *******...AWESOME
Maybe because there is not much correlation between the way you perceive a person based on what he looks like based on what he actually IS like?
I walked into a book store in a small southern town and a man approached me. He was one of the owners but, by the way he talked, I thought he was a mentally challenged worker who could offer me no help. How wrong I was!
I spent a lovely afternoon with this man and his wife talking about our love of books and they shared their story with me about how they met and fell in love and opened up this store. We shared a pot of tea and the lunch that they had made for themselves.
All it took was a bit of patience on my part for me to have one of the most delightful afternoons of my life. A great life lesson about giving a person a chance to connect and open up their life to a stranger. Never judge by appearances for we might miss out on some very wonderful human beings.
because there are so many labels that are attached to the way we dress, our weight, our height, and our hair and even our body language. and there is always more than one reason why someone might look the way they do. when you judge, your thoughts are biased.. for example
a fat woman: u could think that she is disgusting and lazy, but she could have a health or mental problem.. if someone has a mental problem that doesnt mean they are insane or stupid. and sometimes judgements are not real in the slightest. you may look at someone with tattoos all over them you might think are were dirty or someone with pink hair is a punk or gay. but we all know that isn't necessarily true.
if everyone judged each other fully we would not be very compassionate and everyones self esteem would get flushed down the potty
however everyone does judge, we should just try not too. as in first impressions should not be someone's final conclusion about someone especially if the judgement was because of materialistic things. (and i do believe that what you think of someone can change over time)
Go ahead, judge their look, but any assumptions you make about the person behind the look has a good chance of being wrong.
I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but most people tend to dress to reflect their attitude, and that is how they are judged by appearance. I think.
Because the way someone looks is not who they are.
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People judge other people against themselves. So if you wear a tracksuit all day long, and I meet you (for the first time) in a suit you might take against me because of my appearance. I am pretty open-minded but I am deeply suspicious of people to put a ironed crease in the leg of their jeans.