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Why is life so hard for me?

I am 55 and have pretty much been on my own my entire life. I never had a real career so I have had low level jobs and never really treated nicely at work. My whole work personality has changed to being very difficult and no one at work likes me. I started working full time when I was 18 and I am really tired of it. It seems there is no end in sight for retirement. I also have challenges with my aging mother who is 83. I don't have any real friends but do have a couple of acquaintainces that I see 3 or 4 times a year. I have had enough and don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel like finding a cheap apartment and hibernating so I don't have to deal with anyone. If I quit my job my money will only last 10 years and when it runs out I will have big problems trying to support myself. I don't know what to do any more.

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If you have enough money for 10 yrs., why don't you invest it into a business that you like?

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meteorite	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 11:51PM Dont blame you for being sick of it all-Life has a way of wearing you down. No advice for you just sympathy. Rated: +2Vote for this!
jerrica	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 11:51PM like meteorite, i don't know if i have any advice for you but i have much sympathy. especially on the work issue and taking care of a relative. i started working when i was 14 and i'm really tired of it now too for various reasons. plus helping my disabled sister, comforting her when she's in pain, can be draining. Rated: +2Vote for this!
bebitz	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 11:52PM You have taken the first step towards a change today, you have an awareness of what your problem is. Now you just have to work on a solution for it, think about what 21stcenturyschizoidman said. Maybe you could change your life with that 10 years worth of money or get someone to help with the care of your mother with the money to leave you more time to pursue something you would like to do in your spare time so that the work time won't seem so bad. Rated: +2Vote for this!
twistedSOUNDS	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 11:52PM your life is hard because you think your life is hard. think of it as easy, and life will be easy....i think shakespeare said that....or maybe ronald mcdonald i dont remember. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pukirahe	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 11:53PM It is extremely hard for all people since their childhood. We don't know whether the water we drink is healthily safe, so we must go through filtering, boiling and containing in a clean cup..., while the bird just dips its beck into any pond! Your problem may seem hardest now, but I don't think it is yet the hardest. So just overcome as you do for the last 50 years. Rated: +2Vote for this!
SisterFreedom	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 7:50AM Do what makes you happy. Do it today. If you don't know what makes you happy, figure it out. You may not have ten years. You probably can't change it all in one day; but you can start making little changes here and there. Be gentle with yourself. Life is about the journey AND the destination. Good luck my friend. Rated: +1Vote for this!
sunniehunnie	Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 2:31PM I don't know.It does seem to me that some people do have a harder time.I think that a lot of it has to do with our formative years.They say the personality is formed by age 6.And those of us who had dysfunctional families have a greater burden to bear Ridding oneself of negative energy can be almost impossible. Rated: +1Vote for this!
theonewhoflys	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 7:03AM It is really simple you have enough money to last ten years quit your job and go back to school and find something new its what i would do. Rated: +1Vote for this!
adept	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 7:15AM Wow, money for 10 years. I hope I will have the same some day. Yeah, it's not too much, but there are a lot of people with less also. When I'm at work, I always think about what I could do additionally or instead. I'd very much like to write books and already started with some storys, but progress is very slow. Without quitting your job at first, there may be possabilities for the free time. Writing, painting, starting a website in hope that commercials will pay for a place on it. And even it seems to be hard, try to think optimistic and enthusiastic about it. Make it a self-fullfilling prophecy. Little stones can be the beginning of a mountain. Rated: +1Vote for this!
tallboy61	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 7:33AM for gods sake , pull your self together and get on with it or go to India and see what folk have to do there and get sore knees from preying and thanking god for what you have . Things at so bad believe me. Rated: +1Vote for this!
AIUI	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 8:16AM Have you considered putting your mother into a home? Harsh words I know. But you are 55 and it's about time you took care of your self. Some people in your shoes, just walk away from their old life and do EVERYTHING they have not done before. Their lives change. Kind of makes sense. Your life is the way it is because of everything you have done up until now. For this to change you need to go and do EVERYTHING differently. You have nothing to lose. Look how your life is now, can it get much worse? Rated: +1Vote for this!
Duckgirl	Posted Aug 2nd, 2009 at 4:19PM Sounds like you started off bad then took that route. Would you like to change course. It wont be as easy at your age. Yet it can surely be done. Rated: +1Vote for this!