Why is my mother trying to be my best friend now? Doesn't she remember how she abused me my whole life?
Despite the fact that I was a well behaved child and teenager, my mother took every opportunity to be physically, verbally and emotionally abusive. I look just like someone she hates and I am the only daughter out of four children.
I left home nine years ago because I had enough. She tried to give me gifts and turn on the sweetness, but I still left.
Now I find that she wants to be my best friend, but I do not feel emotionally safe with this woman. We are civil, but she wants me to share private things with her. My mother recently asked if I would tell her if my husband and I had marriage problems. I said yes so that she wouldn't fly off the handle, but truthfully she would be the last to know.
I forgive my mother for my own soul and I feel sorry for her because she is very flawed and she does not understand how to take responsibility for her actions. I just don't understand the sudden compulsion to be besties. What do you think? Is it guilt?