Because so much emotion and trust is involved. If the same thing was done by say a friend it wouldn't hurt as much
Because they can. You wouldn't let anyone else hurt you that bad...
Love moves in a circular fashion. When you have reached hate on the wheel, you are the closest to being back at love. It is like seeing your own reflection at the end of the universe. Creepy eh?
Because to love someone is to put honesty, openness, emotion, etc, on the table..if you lose, hell yell, it's going to hurt. The ones closest know your weaknesses..be aware of those that you allow to be that close and you will be just fine.
Your lover does love you, but because you do share your vulnerabilities, you know when your buttons are being pushed. It's a way of creating distance, and a way of saying "what are you gonna do about it?". Address it. If it's abusive, darlin', take it from me. Slide out of that crap and move on. Good luck.
you are more vulnerable to the ones you love.
Remember the old saying: You always hurt the one you love.