I believe that marriages fail because people go into them with to high of expectations. We must remember that a marriage is the coming together of two separate people. Each of those people come with they're own sets of rules, experiences, and ideas. The goal of marriage is to remain yourself, while fusing with another, in order to navigate life. The moment people start to realize that, then marriages will stop failing. Only person in a marriage that you need have expectations for is yourself. Not to mention that people jump into marriage to fast without taking the time to get to know the person they are wanting to make they're partner. Marriage is both work and compromise.
Have you brought this issue to his attention? Some guys have mom complexes that they don't even know they have. It is his job to help with monetary responsibilities. No if, ands, or buts about it. You guys need to talk... not yell... but talk!
You understand only a part and you think it is the full. You understand someone at a certain point in time and you think it's eternally valid. You like the person you see and interact, but you don't know he/she will change. <br />
Love-or-Arranged, marriages are successful when partners are ready to learn continuously, to love the newer versions of each other and upgrade from time to time, even if they discover something totally contrary to what they thought. And let small things be small things. (The extreme cases of abuse etc is another matter). <br />
But then, that is the armchair view of a never-married-single, so take it with a pinch of salt. :-)
Loved your line "You understand only a part and you think it is the full. You understand someone at a certain point in time and you think it's eternally valid." Again a great thought to ponder and rotate the spotlight to myself to see myself in different shades of light.:)
Marriage is a bungee jump.. So many to push .. But none where you land.. And you are forever tied to the bungee ropes..
when people get married things are great but then life hits you in the face so while both of you are trying to work on your unity your growing apart..so remember try to make time for just you 2 alone...
coz our thought process is fundamentally flawed. that way of thinking will only cause more problems