IT'S A COMMON TACTIC USED BY NARCISSISTS-TO CONFUSE THE VICTIM AND BRAINWASH THEM TO THINK THEY'RE TO BLAME-THE PURPOSE OF THAT IS TO MAKE THE VICTIM DOUBT THEIR OWN MEMORY AND OR SANITY
ALSO CALLED GASLIGHTING
Some know they're abusive - intend to hurt; others have no idea what they're doing (borderline).
Because the abuser needs some one else to feel the pain that they is feeling. They dont know how to let it out through talking and communcation so they use verbal or physical abuse. I know because iam one of them people and iam getting help
Shifting blame to others, aka, wagging the tail of the dog, they see politicians do it daily, so they copy it. An extension of the childhood excuse, "well everybody else is doing it."
Victimhood has a lot of power if properly used. Note, "power" is not "empowerment", but power is useful.
Assuming the mantle of victimhood allows one to dismantle the other's defenses, turning their friends, family, and the law against them. Most people can't handle being the bad guy, and when one is able to turn their whole world against them, real damage is easy to inflict.
They have issues underlying. Bottom line
Mental health issues come to mind.
Some never take responsibility for their actions unless it's positive, then they take it all...
And here I thought I was just abrasive LOL
Well so okay I want to rub you, but certainly not raw ;)
The accuser is blind to and in denial about their own behavior for one thing
Yep. Because **** em. That's why.