If you wish to be with a man who desires another woman then I believe that you must have your reasons. However, I was taught that if a married man looks upon another woman lustfully he has already committed adultery in his heart and therefore has broke the bonds of his marriage.
a bprd in hand is worth two in bush. perhaps this adage is not known to ur hubby. otherwise he would not ignore chick in hand.
He can stare all he wants but you can never turn a ***** into a housewife or a lady.
I think you answered your own question when you called her his mistress...