Will leaving his dad damage my child?

It will be better for the child if you're apart. At least that way you won't be fighting all the time, and your son can take more of your attention and forge a stronger relationship with each of you and your ex, albeit separately. That way he will not grow up with the impression that that is how couples are supposed to interact. Even when you aren't fighting, there's sure to be a tension hanging in the air. It will be less stressful for all of you.

As long as you do not keep your child from their dad then I don't think it will damage your child..it will however damage them if they have to stay in a house where both their parents reside unhappily, cussing and fighting..it is way healthier for the child if you live apart.

It's better for a child to come FROM a broken home, then to live IN one.

I took my oldest daughter away from her dad, he was not the right kind of father. But she does not like the idea at all. she holds it over my head and i just tell her like it is. i am sorry baby but he had a chance but he did not take it. but i am there for her all the way. no questions asked.

I went through the exact same thing. My divorce will be final this week. It's the best thing that could have happened to all of us. My ex is happier, I'm happier, our children are happier! If it doesn't feel right, then it's not. It's hard to hurt someone, especially when you feel they're not really doing anything wrong. But the outcome can be so much better. My ex is really happy now - he lives his life the way he wants to and has met some awesome people along the way. Our kids are doing so much better. It was hard the first few months, with all the changes but they've adjusted quite well. Kids know when their parents aren't happy.

I believe as long as your son sees the respect you and his father have for each other, all he will want both parents
happy and then he will be happy having the freedom in his little mind that its ok if momy and dady are not living in the same house but they still love me.As long as parents don't use their children as a tug of war and bad mouth each other.Remembering that child is loved more then anyone or anything his life will be in good hands.

It's hard to make the decision to leave & then to keep trusting yourself that you have made the right decision.

I think, however, it is harder to keep beating your head against a brick wall. If the relationship is not meant to work, than it wont and no matter the amount of fighting that fact will change it. You have both done the right thing in working at it, it is not your fault it didnt work. Stay honest and fair to your son as he grows up, and try your hardest to stay friends with his father and then you have not done wrong by anyone.

it is so hard... to walk away. And then to except that your idea of the "perfect" family will not be. But as long as your son has two loving parents he will always be in the perfect family. Remember that.

Good luck, and stay strong. Im going through the same thing so if you need someone to talk to, im always available. I may not always have the answers, but im good for a vent

I've been through a divorce. YES, leaving his dad will damage your child. Sure, kids are resilient. Sure, he will appear to get over it. But, he will always have the pain of your divorce inside of him just as you will and just as your husband will.

Society is quick to tell us "Do it for yourself". But, I always try to give the advice I wish I had been given.... "Think it through long and hard" before you do something that will affect you and others for the rest of their lives.

my mom and dad are seperated, and they seperated twice im going to be honest with you the first time they seperated i took it very heard., but it took a dew months and i was fine again. but the second time (like now) im prefectly okay with it, i actually couldnt be happier.

every child lives to see their mother happy... sad as it sounds but a dad is not always nessicarily the man who got you pregnant

It is better to come from a broken home than to live in one.

the best thing you can do for your son, is show him what happiness looks like. Do what makes you happy. Everything else works itself out.

i was in this exact same situation about 3 years ago. i mulled over the pros and cons of leaving for probably at least 6 months before i actually did it. I was going to leave our relationship after a year, but then got pregnant, stayed for the kid, yada yada. it worked for a while, but ultimately...i wasn't happy with the way things were, so i changed it. some may call it selfish, yes, but....you're no good to anyone if you're unhappy all the time. u deserve to be happy too!!

so yes, i left...our daughter still has a great relationship with her dad, and "I" am happy too. it's all worked out for me...it can for you too :) best wishes!!

Absence of the father or mother will equally spoil the child.
There are thousands of ways to build a happy family that responsible husband and wife must learn, before as well as after marriage, for themselves and especially for their children.
Usually, the one accuses the other for the failure, while failure is because of both. If just one of the two loves sincerely, completely, selflessly, the family will be saved.
Yes, but the problem is that the other person is so bad!

Ask yourself this... is your child better off with parents who are together but do not get along, or w/ parents who are apart but can still love him? Either way, your son needs to know you both love him and that his happiness is more important to both iof you than what is between the two of you, love, war, or whatever that may be!

Believe it or not, you don't sound like you are ready to leave the marriage. Once you feel completely neutral about things and after you have exhausted every possible option you will be ready. However, a divorce will affect your child tremendously.