Will this pattern ever break?

every time i meet someone who i love to spend time with my kids make me choose them or her. my ex of 8 years sends nasty texts and makes nasty calls to me. my now ex g/f reported the ex of 8 years and my 17 y/o son to the police for sending abusive texts to her. each time it gets worse for me. perhaps i should just be there for my kids my mum and my ex of 8 years?

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Grow up and be a MAN already. How many different questions about the same crap are you going to keep posting on EP?

You were a Momma's Boy. Then your wife immasculated you. You allow your kids to dictate your life boundaries (daughters, eh?) and GF after GF dumps you for the same basic issues.

Karma is trying to wake you up, answer the call and take responsibility for your actions/inactions. Get a life.

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jerrica	Posted Feb 27th, 2009 at 10:47AM sounds like you need to take charge of your own life and stop letting others dictate it. i know old habits are hard to break but for your own sake, do whatever it takes to get the reins back from everyone else. Rated: +1Vote for this!
COOLPENGUIN	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 2:55PM None of us can choose for you. You have to choose for yourself, and if you listen to your kids instead of your heart, you will wind up alone and resenting your kids and their mum. Rated: +1Vote for this!
overman	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 2:58PM Well, the pattern is ONE thing I'd break. Rated: +1Vote for this!
lillyanna	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 3:01PM sounds like a very dysfunctional family you are wrapped up in. its about time you grew some b***s and started seeing what they are really like instead of burying your head in the sand and hoping things will improve. you are your own person (supposed to be) !! GROW UP and be A MAN. you sound like a right weirdo... Rated: +1Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 3:02PM You have some serious issues, buddy.....try a counselor...You need help. Why do you allow everyone else to run your life? Rated: +1Vote for this!
mzdivine	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 3:16PM I agree! Unicorn maybe right! A professional person is the only way out! We are not experienced enough in these matters! Rated: +1Vote for this!
GDGGirl	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 4:36PM It will break once you realize you let everyone around you control you and what you do. Sounds like you lost yourself some where in there. The nasty text crap is bs and that is uncalled for. Your ex needs to stop controlling you or you really need to stop letting her. As i said before grow some b**ls. The pattern is you letting people walk all over you all the time and letting your kids run the house and you for that matter and you are letting your ex control situations that are none of her business anymore. You have a problem that only you can fix. If you dont fix it you will end up alone. Rated: +1Vote for this!
void00	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 4:39PM Be there for your mum? Possibly. For your ex? No. For your children? Only if you could get them away from your ex and drum some sense into them. Personally I would just bail from the whole sorry mess and try to make a new start. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Paramour	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 5:24PM Well there is an obvious pattern here. You don't need a counselor for this, and I think you already know the answer deep down. Just remember, to want to change the outcome of something, you have to try and DO something different. Rated: +1Vote for this!
bebitz	Posted Feb 26th, 2009 at 8:10PM Boundries much? Rated: +1Vote for this!

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