I found mine. (Kind Of (?) ... ) I run into the same kind of absurd crowds, but getting the climate and peace I have is the best here (For Me) in Aberdeen, Washington.
Sometimes I have the opposite. I will try to converse with others, but I'm intruding on them. So it doesn't work very well this way either.
You might look into some place like Seattle.
I live in Northeast Kansas. Friendly people, diversity. Close to Kansas City. Safe, great place to raise the kids. Lakes, hills, change in seasons. Accepting of those different from us. We have K-State, KU, Washburn U. ...
We are land locked, however.
2nd lowest crime rate in US.
Awesome public school system (5th graders are assigned a laptop computer)
Light traffic (half the population of Boston in a state that's nearly the size of Florida)
90% trees, only 10% populated
Right on the coast.
~Cold in winter
~High state taxes
~Even the homeless can't afford to live here
~Too many people competing for too-few jobs... get work lined up first.
Miami FL! been here since spring and its awesome i used to stay in NYC before that
The mid-west. California and NY are pretty screwed up.