Resolved Question

..after all the pains he caused me, the killing of me the burying of me now he is saying that he still loves me, wanting me (not needing me) and cant live without me, asking me if i still love him. How will I respond to him? How will I say I have nothing left for him, how will I say I hate it when he touches me, that I feel like vomiting when he touches me, that I want him to be out of our lives. But I feel scared that he will hurt himself he will hurt us physically and everyone will blame me, that everyone will point all their fingers at me. What everyone knows is he is a very good, kind, loving, respectful person that's what he shows them, but I knew better... What should I do

Sweety, it sounds as though you are stuck in a very rough place right now. As an outsider I can only tell you the sensible thing, though you might not feel like believing it.

The way you are feeling means you should not be with this man, for your sanity, and even for his, you should leave him, and as there is every possibility that he will try all the emotional blackmail he can to keep you, I think a non-emotional letter would be much better than speaking to him face to face.

If this man does commit suicide, then please do not accept any blame for this, it is a choice he has taken, not you.

And if anyone blames you, they are not people you need to worry about, surround yourself with family and friends who will support you through your break up, and through any serious consequences.

You might have a tough time for a few months, as anyone would after any break up, and you may have additional guilts - which you really shouldn't take ownership off, however at the end of the day, you can in time rebuild your life, either as a strong and independant young woman with your whole life ahead of you, or eventually with in another relationship which is equal and respectful of one another.

I do hope you find your inner strengths, good luck for your future.