World of Warcraft and Marriage?

No, you're not wrong to feel this way. If you feel that someone's actions are affecting your marriage then it is affecting your marriage. These online games and to a great degree, EP, is escapism at best. If you're spending most of your day on a game or here I cannot see how that is healthy for anyone who's single let alone married. Buy one of those dollar kitchen timers. The ones that "ding" real loud. Give your spouse an hour or so uninterrupted but once the timer goes off, he/she owes you at least that much time before going back to the kingdom and fighting for the freedom of the peasants. OMG, I almost spelled pheasants.

I don't think so. People can become so wrapped-up in these games, they lose their sense of reality and responsibility to their work, friends, and family. Have you told him how you feel? I would.

Or you can get invovle into his world and show that person reality in a way.

I think it can definitely work out but your hubby needs to learn moderation with gaming.

I've been a gamer forever and honestly you have to treat it like a drug. I'm absolutely serious. If you game everyday all day you might as well pitch an opium tent! It's just like other recreational drugs- you have to use it in moderation and know when you've reached your limit. To your brain, there isn't much difference between a joint and a game. Both release the same types of reward chemicals in your brain that get you hooked!

Once I came to realize this, I became more responsable about my gaming. If I had been in deeper, I might of needed an intervention. Family members certainly voiced their concern but I ignored them until I myself realized what I was doing to myself in extreme boughts of gaming. Just like how an alcoholic cannot get better until they realize they have the problem!

it's not wrong to feel neglected, I was in a relationship where I was the mistress and the real girlfriend was his games whether it was world of warcraft or the xbox. you need to let him know that the world in the game will always be there, the real world, won't.

You are not wrong in feeling this way. It seems that you might need to give your husband a more serious message. He apparently isn't getting the gravity of the situation. You need to express it to him. However, in your own mind, you need to decide what you consider an acceptable amount and time to play. As a man, I can tell you that he is wanting specifics. It is always best when the terms are clear.

It is a matter of balance. My wife hates the fact I play as much as I do. When our marriage was good, I limited to two days a week, but considering that our marriage has been emotionally dead for sometime I play most everyday. I don't feel that I should sit in the living room and watch endless hours of Lifetime and Oxygen network all stressed out and anxious simply to spend time with her. After my kids are in bed, I do head to my computer. Believe in heatbeat I would go back to gaming a couple days a week, for a more loving wife any day of the week. You husband doens't fully understand that 25 Man Naxx is a poor substitute for a loving wife.

I would definitely trade WoW for a loving better half. I think it's not the message you are sending him but how you are sending it. You should be able to come to a compromise. It took a huge fight for me to figure it out, but I learned to stop playing during the quality time I could be spending with her. Might be time to break out the baseball bat.