Would you continue to communicate with a man who says he wants a romantic relationship , but does nothing?
We have known each other for years
, met had dinner, and talked on phone. We live in different states, and he says he does n
not have time nor does he he feel up to planning a trip to see me any time soon. He is an entertainer,and he does travel extensively as part of his job. He gets very angry if I mention another guy. He says I should wait on him. After all these years I would prefer to be.friends. He has financial problems,
and there is no way he could pay for me to come see him. My gosh, he lives in a tiny 12x12 room which he rents. I am well off. I would never go out there by myself. I think he is
somewhat embarrassed by my wealth. I live a very simple life, however .
forget about romance with him and just be friends .He is now telling me to not find anybody . He has financial problems
There is no way he could pay for me to come see him.
6 Answers to "Would you continue to communicate with a man who says he wants a romantic relationship , but does nothing?"
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I totally agree with everyone's responses. One can only cling to hope for so long. Further, if someone were really "that into you," they would move heaven and earth to meet, and be with you within their power to do so. Since he does travel so much, at a bare minimum, he could fly you to where he or where he is going to be if it's not close to where you live.
I too think he's playing you...he likes your friendship and to know you are there...kind of an old standby but it doesn't seem he respects you enough to make an effort for you. Imagine if this is the way it is now without meeting you, how much of an effort would he make in person? It doesn't sound like he has any time for a "real relationship. You get what you give and when you are the only one giving and not getting, there is a definite imbalance. It grows old really fast. It takes two to tango...get off of the one way street and travel down one with someone whom you can meet in the middle who respects you and literally cherishes the time spent with you and what you can do to foster a healthy, "NORMAL" loving, sharing relationship.Life's to short wondering if something is going to happen. Make your happiness...don't depend on him to do it. Good luck. :)Like (1)
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No way! Puppetmasters are creepy. My default reaction is repulsion.
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He is playing games. Dump him
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The clock is ticking!
I don't do very well with being placed "on hold". I guess I'd tell him that I was going to do what I needed to do when I needed to do it. That I would date someone if he came along. If not, then I would see the first guy when I could, but that I would not make any sort of commitment or save myself for anyone who wouldn't even make the effort to see me. That's crazy. And it's actually a selfish thing for him to ask you to do. Why should he expect you to remain alone until he can get his ducks in a row? Your life is yours. He should want for you what will make you happy, whether it's with his companionship or with the companionship of someone else who will love you. It sounds like he doesn't think about that. But if I were you, I would!Like (1)
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Sounds like your on lay-by...Really just do what you want.
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Posted by behemoth Nov 6th, 2011 at 11:16AM
i would,until i get fed up..that's like a week or so.
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