Would you consider me a bad parent if I let my teenager smoke pot and drink only if they were at home?
I was raised in a cult where no one had a right to do anything that was not sanctioned by the head minister. When I escaped at the age of 33 with my two kids ages 10 and 11. I had never heard of marijuana or drugs. I had heard of alcohol and knew it was the devil's drink. I didn't know the laws of the land, nor even who the president of the United States was. All I knew when I left was that there would be no more rules in our house. So when the kids became teenagers and wanted to drink with all their friends, I told them that they could only drink here in the house. They could invite their friends over and drink but the friends would have to stay overnight and give me their car keys until morning. I thought I was doing the responsible thing and not letting them drink and drive. Now I look back and I wonder, "What the hell was I thinking? I could've lost my kids and gone to jail. But I didn't know that then. I feel I was a great mother because I was doing the best I knew how.