Would you end a friendship of 15 years if it became toxic?

I agree with Mandy1...Move on!...You won't win!

If the beatings continue,...Call the police!...

She won't like you for it but it will be your parting gift to her

Hopefully ,it shall be B4 she signs on the Bottom line!

This is normal... you were friends at a young age and you have obviously become two differnt people. If it were me and my friend didn't want to hear the truth about her loser fience I would say buy-bye. It sounds like you are consuming a lot of engery into a friendship that seems to be a dead end relationship. Its not fair to you one bit, your only trying to help her and some people just know what they know and won't listin to anyone else. Its time to re-evaulate if this friendship is really worth your time and energy

You can only help the ones who help themselves.. so but .. it is time to move and .. I would tell her why too..no if's, but's, or maybe s.. just do to it .. it's starting to spill into your life.. shut the door.

if she did that to me i wouldnt be her friend anymore but i would try one more time to help her as in inform her as best as i could what happens to some women in abuseive relationships if she still got mad i would tell her i didnt want to see or hear from her again until she was ready to get help

I had a friend and mentor when I was in my 20’s as I got older I slowly began to realize that she was a racist and full of anger. She hid these things but as I got older I began to see her as she was. A black friend of mine died that we both used to work with and I called her to give her the bad news. She laughed and spit out a string of insults at the man saying that she never said any thing about him in life because she knew I liked him. That was the last time I called her.

Get away from her and save yourself from the stress that could damage (your) health.

of course i would. life's too short to waste on bull**it.

Cut her loose.She makes herself unhappy and that's why she's on your butt. She may come around when she knows you were a good thing, in her life.

It is bad for your mental health to continue this friendship. You have to stop trying to rescue her, let her see she is self destructing or she will never figure it out. At this point the friendship is very codependent and you are not helping her or yourself.

keep your distance, give yourself the mental space to take care of yourself, don't listen to her ranting and raving anymore , tell her your views about the relationship gently and kindly, then back off - let her know that her actions are affecting you negatively. let her know you're there for her, but not to be abused, tell her you love her. she will need to hear it, do not abandon her in her time of need, but take the space to make yourself healthy and safe. call the police if she is being beaten- no one wants a death on their heads, take care of yourself babe ( and your friend too ;)

yes, in a heartbeat and without regret for the time being. maybe we could be friends at a later time in life.

I'll say this; if your friend is suffering through an abusive relationship as it sounds like she is, then you need to step in and do something. Mabye she doesn't see the fact that you are trying to help; she may be spirling out of control and confused. Bottom line, don't worry about your feelings and focus more on getting her out of that relationship at all costs because it could end up ultimately bad for her and you could lose your friend forever!

Try to talk to her, share your concerns, your feelings, tell her how you feel ..... if she won't listen, then there isn't much you can do.
You may have to move on.. she may come around later on in her life... until then tho, you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

You may need some distance from her. But it sounds like
the abuse she is receiving is taking its toll on her--anger
misplaced, shame, etc. Perhaps there will come a time
when you can help her get help for herself--a counselor,
battered women's shelter, etc. She probably feels so bad
about herself accepting such bad behavior, that her low
self esteem and self hate are what you are seeing.

Move on dear heart. If you aren't able to get through to her, move on. But first, because you still care for her.........get some pamphlets together on abused women. Gather some horror story's of women on the news who have been abused and ended up dead.

Let her know you do this out of love for her. But that you are stepping away out of love for you, and your family.

Good luck to you, and I pray for your friend and all women out there ! No woman deserves to be treated like that. And her "man" is at the top of the dangerous list. Anytime a "man" would kill an animal ( I am assuming as a form of punishment) is capable of killing her too.

No, I wouldn't. I would however, not communicate or deal with her for a while. Let her break it if she wants. She'll either figure it out or not.

No....friends like that are worth fighting for...even if you have to "take a break". Maybe you can invite her over and you can watch Beaches together....You remember, the movie about childhood friends that had a love-hate-love relationship...
Would you be Bette Midlar or Barbara Hershey?

She has to wake up before she lose everything .

i hate to say this but leaving your friend like this would not be good because she needs you now more than ever. people in abusive relationships act like they want change to happen & they reach out to their family or friends for help. the problem is, when you give them help they either go back to the abuse or they blame you for it. i don't provide safe havens. i will however support them. she needs to decide for herself when she wants out of this hell she's living in & she will need you when she comes out the other end. yes it sucks. yes it seems like you should probably just leave her alone to do her drama without it affecting you. i've had a cousin in this situation and all the times i helped her it bit me in the end. all the times i listened & fueled her it bit me in the end. i kinda had to do the tough love thing. you don't cut them off. you do love them from afar. you do call the police. you do see about finding resources she can use when she's ready. that's what i've learned & it worked.